Posts Tagged ‘woman’

What Do You Want From A Girlfriend?

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

Attract men everywhere 1The first step to getting a great girlfriend is deciding exactly what kind of woman would be right for you. You don’t want to settle for a woman who isn’t someone you like being around for more than just a little while. The point of getting a girlfriend is to have someone to have more fun with. If you get into a relationship and end up miserable, you’re doing something wrong. So first, decide exactly what you want. That’s the only way you’ll stand a chance at getting it. How do you want to date? Do you want fun, casual, short-term relationships with several women at once? Would you rather have one girlfriend who you really have fun with and respect? Do you want to date a few women casually at first and see if you’d like to get more serious later? Who do you want to date? A friendly, down-to-earth girl-next-door? Someone outgoing and adventurous? An elegant and sophisticated woman? A quiet and reserved type who saves most of her attention for you? Or again, several different women so that you can see who you enjoy being around the most? What are you going to do together? Do you want someone to go with to all the local clubs? Would you rather have a girlfriend who sits on the sidelines and cheers for you, or one who will jump right in the game? How about a girlfriend who enjoys a sport or hobby you’ve never tried? It’s a good idea to start working this out now, before you meet her and before she announces that she’s bored with dinner and a movie every time you go out. Right now, you might think that physical attraction is all that a relationship requires, and you’d be right for the first date…maybe. But eventually, if you haven’t thought through what you want to give and receive in your relationship, your girlfriend will get on your nerves until you have to break it off. But if you start off your relationship right, you’ll be much more likely to get a great girlfriend who you’ll never want to leave. Remember that you have to have something to offer in a relationship, too. What will that be? There are a few things that women want that will surprise you, and others that will seem incredibly obvious. And then there are other things that you thought were important that turn out not to matter at all. So what’s fact and what’s fiction?

 

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What Women Want from a boyfriend in a relationship

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Dating Great MenThe first step to getting a great girlfriend is deciding exactly what kind of woman would be right for you. You don’t want to settle for a woman who isn’t someone you like being around for more than just a little while. The point of getting a girlfriend is to have someone to have more fun with. If you get into a relationship and end up miserable, you’re doing something wrong. So first, decide exactly what you want. That’s the only way you’ll stand a chance at getting it. How do you want to date? Do you want fun, casual, short-term relationships with several women at once? Would you rather have one girlfriend who you really have fun with and respect? Do you want to date a few women casually at first and see if you’d like to get more serious later? Who do you want to date? A friendly, down-to-earth girl-next-door? Someone outgoing and adventurous? An elegant and sophisticated woman? A quiet and reserved type who saves most of her attention for you? Or again, several different women so that you can see who you enjoy being around the most? What are you going to do together? Do you want someone to go with to all the local clubs? Would you rather have a girlfriend who sits on the sidelines and cheers for you, or one who will jump right in the game? How about a girlfriend who enjoys a sport or hobby you’ve never tried? It’s a good idea to start working this out now, before you meet her and before she announces that she’s bored with dinner and a movie every time you go out. Right now, you might think that physical attraction is all that a relationship requires, and you’d be right for the first date…maybe. But eventually, if you haven’t thought through what you want to give and receive in your relationship, your girlfriend will get on your nerves until you have to break it off. But if you start off your relationship right, you’ll be much more likely to get a great girlfriend who you’ll never want to leave. Remember that you have to have something to offer in a relationship, too. What will that be? There are a few things that women want that will surprise you, and others that will seem incredibly obvious. And then there are other things that you thought were important that turn out not to matter at all. So what’s fact and what’s fiction? This series will tell you after you figure out what it is that you really want out of your dating life.

 

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Finding & Dating the Woman You Want

Friday, February 27th, 2009

What Men NeedJust as no woman wants a man who isn’t in control of his life, you don’t need a woman whose life is a disaster. If she has bad habits, addictions, or a history of decisions that turn out to make her life worse, pass her by. While you may like to feel needed, you don’t need to feel necessary for her survival in the everyday world. If she isn’t capable of taking care of herself, you don’t need to rescue her. Be nice to her, but don’t think you can cure her of an addiction or teach her how to handle her personal life better. That’s what counselors are for. Trying to take on that role in a romantic relationship just won’t work. If you find yourself attracted to a woman who just doesn’t have her life together, you need to date someone else. Later, when she decides on her own to straighten out her life, you might date her. But until then, don’t even try it. Remember, you want your relationships to be happy. If she can’t be happy because her life is a mess, you can’t make her happy and you can’t be happy with her. You can’t just come in and fix everything for her. That’s her job as an adult. Taking over that job will make her angry with you, no matter how much better your solutions are. Also, constantly having to rescue a woman gets old really quick, so don’t pick that relationship in the first place and you have a better chance of staying together. Hold out for a woman who has her life together. If she is healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially, you’ll be able to tell. She’ll be happy, calm, and self-aware. She won’t have to escape reality with drugs or alcohol, or dull the pain in her life with self-destructive behavior. A woman you want to date will be able to take care of herself and she won’t be desperate for a man to come bail her out. A healthy woman won’t use you for security, because she already has her own. She’ll still want to be with you, but because she likes you, not because of what you can do for her. And she won’t drop you because someone better comes along. She won’t make excuses for dumb decisions and insist that she has no choice but to be a victim. She won’t have drama cluttering up her life which means that she’ll have room for a healthy, happy relationship with you. She’ll like you for YOU, and she’ll be much less likely to be clingy and jealous as well.

 

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A Few Blind Date Dos

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Dating and Events1Always be yourself on a date. Strive to always be truthful when answering your date’s questions. You should always remember that lying is NEVER a good idea. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is simply inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are. Also, you should share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail about yourself initially, but share with your date enough so that they’re tantalized about learning more. Give them a little history, share a little about your family, and tell them about what you do, things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share as much as you feel comfortable, without boring your date by talking too much about yourself. Listen carefully to your date. Let your date know that you are genuinely interested in them by listening to what they are choosing to share with you. Be respectful and stay focused, this way you’ll be able to respond accordingly when they ask you a question about what they’ve just shared with you. No one wants to go on a date with someone who isn’t listening to them, as this is tantamount to telling your date they aren’t worthy of your attention or respect. This will likely bring your date to a very abrupt end. Do be appropriate when you are talking to someone. You might not know how they believe or what they think about certain issues, so try to be positive and refrain from saying things about specific issues when you don’t know where they stand. Ask them how they feel before blurting out your views, so that you don’t hurt their feelings. Keep the conversation away from your past relationships. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.

 

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A Few Blind Date Don’ts

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Attracting women everywhere 1When you’re on a blind date, don’t lie. Strive to always be yourself. You needn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. After all, isn’t part of the dating quest to find someone who likes, and eventually loves you for YOU? Dishonesty will only lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date, and you sense that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that ultimately you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them.

Don’t bore your date with too many elaborate details about your past, unless they are very engaging, funny, or otherwise interesting details. You will be able to gage your date’s interest by any number of visual or auditory clues, most notably they smile and ask for you to elaborate! Talk a little about yourself but don’t go into too much detail, especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.

Don’t bogart the conversation. Try to listen carefully as well. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you appear to be overly self-centered, your date is not likely is to want to take you out on a date again, because all you do is talk about yourself.

Don’t bring up the past or reference your last relationship. This might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject!

Don’t be too opinioned right away. You don’t know how your date feels about various subjects, so if you start to talk about a potentially controversial subject, you might inadvertently offend or hurt your date by saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about subjects such as politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and proceed with tact. Remember to always be kind!

In short, it’s important to remember that when you’re on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable in any way. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might lead your date to misjudge who you are, or take you seriously about something that you don’t want to appear to feel seriously about. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things. In other words, keep the conversation light and breezy!

 

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