Posts Tagged ‘trustworthy’

Creating an Online Dating Profile

Friday, April 17th, 2009

How to talk about yourself on a date-1To join an online dating service, you need to create a member profile which helps you to describe yourself as to who you are, what you are and what are you looking for? Although you may answer every question as you wish to but before that I would like you to know that there would be many profiles which would have common content. Do you wish to be one of those who share same content on their profile or you want to look different? But of course, you would want to stand out of the crowd. To be different from others in creating an eye catching dating profile you should take care of few things which I am going to mention. Here you go…

The first thing which I would like to mention is take you time building a dating profile. You have to present yourself to the best possibility for a match so be patient and take time building your profile.

Create a unique headline specifying your most passionate thing and it will certainly help you out finding someone sharing the same thing and may be you turn out more compatible with that person.

Look Different: A Profile allows you to demonstrate yourself in front of the world, so you need to be very careful about your answers to some common questions. The idea is to read about 10 to 15 profiles and look for what they all have in common and now you know where to make a difference to look different.

Adding a Photo: Building a relation may not entirely depend on the photo but yes, a photo plays a major role in it. Add a latest photo which is quiet clear and gives a professional look. But that doesn’t mean that you have to take a headshot. You can add any of your photos doing anything you love to, but please do check out for no common results again.

Easy Read Profile: You might be into online dating from a long time back, able to understand the terms like ‘SWF ISO SM’ (Single White Female In Search Of Single Male), but anyone who goes through your profile may not necessarily be knowing these terms, specially the new users, so avoid using such terms in your profile making it easy to read for all. Mostly people do not stay on a profile for long and if you use such terms, they may slip off a little earlier than normal.

Be Honest about yourself: This is a point which is ought to be remembered while writing about yourself. You should know one thing, sooner or later a person will come to know about you, so there’s no point lying at this point. Be what you are, write the truth, no matters if you are divorced, you have kids etc. Just be what you are and no need to hide. When a relation develops, there’s a bonding because of the trust and when small things come up later on the other person starts loosing the trust in you and your relation may end up nowhere, so it’s always better to say the truth no matters how hard it can be.

Keep Your Profile Simple: You are provided with a space to tell about yourself but that doesn’t mean that you have to write a full story mentioning all about you let the people imagine you from your profile. Create your profile in such a way that a person could read it in a minute or two or it can become a bit boring for some.

Spelling and Grammar: Always check your spelling and grammar twice before you post a profile. This is a common mistake made by most of the people. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your profile put up a question about your smartness. Smart people do not make such mistakes. You can also make someone read your profile before you post it, just to ensure about the grammatical errors.

Don’t Write All About you: No questions, this profile is to mention about you and who else?? I just want to convey that, mention you finer points in such a way that your profile doesn’t seems like a boasting thing, just try and be humble and remember to leave a space to mention about the kind of person you are looking for.

Mentioning About The Partner: Always mention specifically what you want your ideal partner to be like, mention a few respectful and realistic lines describing your partner which will in return help you find a compatible partner easily.

Look Alive: No one will ever want to be in relation with the person who is dull, so be passionate about your life, your hobbies. Look full of life!!

Make Changes: You can make changes to your profile anytime you want to, so it’s not necessary to worry about the perfection in the very first time, but you can and you should make the desired changes after a short span of time.

 

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First Date: Your First Impression on her

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

First DateFirst date is a thing which always makes you think over again and again that what would be your first impression or how to give her a good impression on the very first meeting? The first impression is often said as the last impression, whereas in Dating, especially on the first date, the first impression matters a lot. The other person only notices your looks, attitude and behavior rather than going deep into your life on the very first date and your first impression plays an important part as to what kind of relation will develop or even if the relation will develop or not? So, here are few tips for you so that you know how to give the best impression as the first impression on your first date with her.

Look Good: May be you are not a handsome guy, but does that mean you can’t look good? Self grooming is really important. You need to do the following things before going to your first date: – bathing, smelling good, trimming away nose hair and ironing your shirt. I hope you think that the above mentioned tasks do not need much effort.

Have a Good  Sense of Humor: Women love the people who can make them laugh. By making her laugh you are making sure that she is having a good time and is enjoying being with you. She will surely remember her first date with you and will want to go out with you again as you left a good impression on her.

Be Yourself: Women sense fraud, so better you don’t lie anything. Be what you are and answer her questions honestly as you are at the stage of creating a base for your relationship and sooner or later all things come up clearly, so to avoid being called a liar. Be true. Don’t pretend to be what you are not, instead let her know you as who you are or what you are? This will certainly create a good impression on her.

Be a Good Listener: Women love to talk and they love to tell about themselves, so whenever she is talking to you, listen to her carefully, instead of thinking about what to ask next? By listening to her, you are showing her that you are interested in knowing about her which will make her comfortable talking to you and she will always love being with you. Remember, do not get involved in any controversial topics like politics etc,  instead you can choose the topics like hobbies, family, sports etc.

Maintain a Good Attitude: This is one of the most important tip or advice which I would like you to know. Your attitude matters a lot on your first date, it includes how you treat yourself, how you treat others and also how you make others treat you?

Be a Mystery: Women show a great interest towards something they can’t understand and they always want to learn about it more. So, being a mystery will attract her towards you and she would want to come out with you again and again. Now, be nice but avoid being too nice to be always available for her and she would be coming back for more.

Make Her Feel Special: Always do everything to make a woman feel special as women always want to feel special. Women always want to be respected and appreciated. Your making her feel special will definitely leave a good impression on her. You can make her feel special by doing small things like opening the door for her, offering her a chair before you are seated etc.

Enjoy Dating: Dating means to feel relaxed. Instead of being stressed out by just trying to make your date perfect, just be comfortable and enjoy. If you are not enjoying, certainly she would be able to tell and she also won’t enjoy the date and here you may make a bad impression on her.

 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.

Spotting Online Dating Scams & Cheats

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingThe real world as well as the virtual world is full of scam artists, liars, cheaters, stalkers, and plenty of other types of unsavory characters. Both worlds are also full of honest, reliable, trustworthy, hard-working individuals as well. One of the biggest challenges facing those participating in online dating is learning how to tell the difference. Fortunately there are ways to know when you are being scammed and there are things you can do to protect yourself from becoming a victim. Trust Your Instincts Women especially seem to be in-tune with their gut feelings and this actually is one of your best defenses. Pay attention to your instincts because more often than not, they are picking up on vibes you might not be noticing. When your instincts start screaming at you to cease communicating with someone, just do it. You can question your instincts later on, if you want. Or you can start working your next prospective love match. Inconsistent Stories, Vague Responses There is a good chance you are being lied to or scammed when the person cannot keep his or her facts straight. Learn how to listen to the words you read and you will learn how to identify inconsistencies. They usually appear in the basic information another offers such as profession, age, marital status, hobbies and interests, even appearance. When someone cannot keep these basic facts straight, that person likely is lying. Talk on the Phone For your own safety and protection, always arrange to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet in person anyone you have met online. You will get a genuine feel for the person on the other end by doing so. If this person turns out to be the smoothest talker you have ever encountered, that should be a red flag. Also, if the person cannot seem to arrange a convenient time to talk on the phone, this is a bad sign and you should consider ending this relationship. Asking for Money Anytime someone you are communicating with online asks you for money or for your banking or credit card information or any other thing having to do with your personal finances, you are being set up to be scammed. Contrary to what people think, even the brightest, most worldly individuals have fallen victim to this type of scam. Even if you are being given the saddest, most unfortunate or dire story about why the other person needs your financial assistance, it is most likely a lie. It is in your best interest to stop all communication immediately, and this person should be reported, even if doing so makes you feel uncomfortable. Keep Personal Information Personal The more personal information you give out during your online communications, the more you increase your chances of being victimized. Don’t divulge your hometown, name of employer, last name, phone number, real email address, home address, nothing. If another person keeps insisting on this type of information from you, it’s time to move on.

 

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What to Look for in a Man

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Adventurous Man1Do you ever wonder if there are any guys out there who are worth dating? Where are they? And why can’t you find them? Yes, they’re out there – but maybe you’re looking in the wrong places. You might even know a great guy right now, but you’re passing him by because you aren’t sure what you really want. Chances are you’re letting yourself look for men the way you shop for shoes – changing your mind with each new trend or mood. Finding the right single man is not about pleasing your friends, or a competition for attracting the hottest guy at the party. Finding the right single man only happens when you know what you want in a man. Think of man-hunting like bargain hunting at a clearance sale. Sure, the neon orange skirt is 80% off the regular price, but where would you wear it? That conservative black suit is a classic, but your style is sporty and casual – it just doesn’t fit with the rest of your wardrobe. Buying another tank top that’s not your size won’t look any better because it’s on sale than the one you already have that shrank in the wash. Mr. Neon Orange may be easy to lead around, but he would never fit into your world. Mr. Conservative Black Suit runs with a more formal crowd than your flip flop loving crowd. Mr. Too-Tight Tank Top is just like Mr. Jerk that you spent months crying over last year – do you really want to do that again? You have to know what you want in a man before you can find him. So take out a piece of paper and draw three columns. The left column is for What’s Important, middle column is for Requirements and right column is for Preferences, aka, those little this called compromise points. The What’s Important column includes such items as age, income, appearance, moral value, habits like smoking/drinking, common interests, sports, commitment style and family values. Don’t try to fit any particular guys into this list – not yet. Prepare this list with absolute honesty. Decide what characteristics are must haves (Requirements) and which are like to haves (Preferences). Until you know this information, you really can’t make a solid decision about any guy. Maybe you’ve ignored nagging requirements in order to accept a certain guy as he is. That’s a relationship red flag. If you’re a personal trainer who is into natural foods, you can make all the excuses in the world, but you won’t last with a guy who smokes and craves fatty fast foods 24/7. The conflict between what’s important to him and what’s important to you means that one of you has to change. Don’t count on changing him. If you change your beliefs, how much of yourself gets lost? Over time, you’ll either resent him or resent yourself – the conflict in inevitable. Knowing what you want is the fair way to date. Why waste your time (and his) when the foundational elements aren’t there? It’s also important to be honest with yourself about the type of man that you really want. When you know how to describe him, you’ll have an easier time recognizing him when you meet him. Maybe you already know him – you just didn’t know yourself!

 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.

Be Yourself on a Date!

Saturday, May 27th, 2006

Activities for datingAlways be yourself on a date. Lying, or any form of deception, is not a good idea when it comes to dates. It’s important to set a precedent of being honest with your dates, and to be truthful when they ask you questions. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are, how you feel, and what you believe. It’s simply EASIER to be yourself! Be prepared to share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail initially, but share with your date a bit about yourself so they can begin to get to know you. Share a little of your personal history, a little about your family, a little about what you do, touch on things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share what you feel comfortable speaking about, without boring them by talking too much about yourself. Think of it as a whirlwind synopsis of who you are! The intent is to not only tantalize your date with tidbits of information, but to generate sufficient interest on their part so they can ask questions, which helps you gain insight into what aspect of your life they find of greater interest!

 

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