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Creating an Online Dating Profile

Friday, April 17th, 2009

How to talk about yourself on a date-1To join an online dating service, you need to create a member profile which helps you to describe yourself as to who you are, what you are and what are you looking for? Although you may answer every question as you wish to but before that I would like you to know that there would be many profiles which would have common content. Do you wish to be one of those who share same content on their profile or you want to look different? But of course, you would want to stand out of the crowd. To be different from others in creating an eye catching dating profile you should take care of few things which I am going to mention. Here you go…

The first thing which I would like to mention is take you time building a dating profile. You have to present yourself to the best possibility for a match so be patient and take time building your profile.

Create a unique headline specifying your most passionate thing and it will certainly help you out finding someone sharing the same thing and may be you turn out more compatible with that person.

Look Different: A Profile allows you to demonstrate yourself in front of the world, so you need to be very careful about your answers to some common questions. The idea is to read about 10 to 15 profiles and look for what they all have in common and now you know where to make a difference to look different.

Adding a Photo: Building a relation may not entirely depend on the photo but yes, a photo plays a major role in it. Add a latest photo which is quiet clear and gives a professional look. But that doesn’t mean that you have to take a headshot. You can add any of your photos doing anything you love to, but please do check out for no common results again.

Easy Read Profile: You might be into online dating from a long time back, able to understand the terms like ‘SWF ISO SM’ (Single White Female In Search Of Single Male), but anyone who goes through your profile may not necessarily be knowing these terms, specially the new users, so avoid using such terms in your profile making it easy to read for all. Mostly people do not stay on a profile for long and if you use such terms, they may slip off a little earlier than normal.

Be Honest about yourself: This is a point which is ought to be remembered while writing about yourself. You should know one thing, sooner or later a person will come to know about you, so there’s no point lying at this point. Be what you are, write the truth, no matters if you are divorced, you have kids etc. Just be what you are and no need to hide. When a relation develops, there’s a bonding because of the trust and when small things come up later on the other person starts loosing the trust in you and your relation may end up nowhere, so it’s always better to say the truth no matters how hard it can be.

Keep Your Profile Simple: You are provided with a space to tell about yourself but that doesn’t mean that you have to write a full story mentioning all about you let the people imagine you from your profile. Create your profile in such a way that a person could read it in a minute or two or it can become a bit boring for some.

Spelling and Grammar: Always check your spelling and grammar twice before you post a profile. This is a common mistake made by most of the people. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your profile put up a question about your smartness. Smart people do not make such mistakes. You can also make someone read your profile before you post it, just to ensure about the grammatical errors.

Don’t Write All About you: No questions, this profile is to mention about you and who else?? I just want to convey that, mention you finer points in such a way that your profile doesn’t seems like a boasting thing, just try and be humble and remember to leave a space to mention about the kind of person you are looking for.

Mentioning About The Partner: Always mention specifically what you want your ideal partner to be like, mention a few respectful and realistic lines describing your partner which will in return help you find a compatible partner easily.

Look Alive: No one will ever want to be in relation with the person who is dull, so be passionate about your life, your hobbies. Look full of life!!

Make Changes: You can make changes to your profile anytime you want to, so it’s not necessary to worry about the perfection in the very first time, but you can and you should make the desired changes after a short span of time.

 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.

How to Prepare for Online Dating

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Fabulous great datesYou’ve been thinking about joining an online dating website but something is keeping you from pushing that JOIN button. Maybe you haven’t pushed that button yet because you haven’t prepared yourself. If so, then sit back and take a moment to see where you’re at with the whole concept of online dating. Dating, whether online or by traditional methods, is a huge step for many people, not just for those who are shy. Some people have never dated before. Others who are newly single may not have been part of the dating scene for many years. Others have had one bad experience after another and are trying to deal with issues of self-doubt or self-worth. Whether or not you see yourself in any of these examples, it’s important that you have an idea of what you want to get out of online dating. Knowing these answers will help you write a more effective profile and when your profile reflects your wants and needs, you won’t waste time on others who are looking for something entirely different. Are You Ready to Date Online? That’s the very first question you need to answer. If your heart and your head aren’t in this, then don’t start yet. You’ll waste your time as well as that of other members. And if the online dating site costs money to join, you’ll waste your money, too. Maybe you aren’t ready to ‘date’ but you are ready for companionship. That’s an important realization because you will likely find others online who are seeking companionship, too. The interesting thing about companionship, however, is that people differ in their definition of companionship. Dates with no strings attached and even casual one-night-stands are both definitions of ‘companionship’. So if you’re looking for a shoulder to cry on or someone to play Bingo with, make sure your intentions are clear. What Qualities Are You Seeking? Besides a particular eye and hair color, think about the qualities you are looking for in a mate. Here it’s important to think about more than physical attributes. Is your perfect soul mate someone who skis or surfs or who loves to putter in the garden? Can the person be recently divorced or widowed, or would you prefer someone new to the game of love? Is there a limit as to how old of a person you’re willing to date or how young for that matter? Should a mate share similar interests or will someone with differing interests better suit your needs? What are Your Online Dating Goals? Finally, ask yourself about your desired end results of your efforts. Are you looking for a long-term commitment that could ultimately lead to marriage? Do you seek friendship? Will a long-distance relationship be acceptable? Even though you answer all of the above questions, it doesn’t mean that your wants can’t change as you make your way through the online dating scene. These answers just give you a starting point. After all, your ultimate destination really is all about the journey!

 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.

A Few Blind Date Don’ts

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Attracting women everywhere 1When you’re on a blind date, don’t lie. Strive to always be yourself. You needn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. After all, isn’t part of the dating quest to find someone who likes, and eventually loves you for YOU? Dishonesty will only lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date, and you sense that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that ultimately you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them.

Don’t bore your date with too many elaborate details about your past, unless they are very engaging, funny, or otherwise interesting details. You will be able to gage your date’s interest by any number of visual or auditory clues, most notably they smile and ask for you to elaborate! Talk a little about yourself but don’t go into too much detail, especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.

Don’t bogart the conversation. Try to listen carefully as well. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you appear to be overly self-centered, your date is not likely is to want to take you out on a date again, because all you do is talk about yourself.

Don’t bring up the past or reference your last relationship. This might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject!

Don’t be too opinioned right away. You don’t know how your date feels about various subjects, so if you start to talk about a potentially controversial subject, you might inadvertently offend or hurt your date by saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about subjects such as politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and proceed with tact. Remember to always be kind!

In short, it’s important to remember that when you’re on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable in any way. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might lead your date to misjudge who you are, or take you seriously about something that you don’t want to appear to feel seriously about. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things. In other words, keep the conversation light and breezy!

 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.