Posts Tagged ‘honest’

Creating an Online Dating Profile

Friday, April 17th, 2009

How to talk about yourself on a date-1To join an online dating service, you need to create a member profile which helps you to describe yourself as to who you are, what you are and what are you looking for? Although you may answer every question as you wish to but before that I would like you to know that there would be many profiles which would have common content. Do you wish to be one of those who share same content on their profile or you want to look different? But of course, you would want to stand out of the crowd. To be different from others in creating an eye catching dating profile you should take care of few things which I am going to mention. Here you go…

The first thing which I would like to mention is take you time building a dating profile. You have to present yourself to the best possibility for a match so be patient and take time building your profile.

Create a unique headline specifying your most passionate thing and it will certainly help you out finding someone sharing the same thing and may be you turn out more compatible with that person.

Look Different: A Profile allows you to demonstrate yourself in front of the world, so you need to be very careful about your answers to some common questions. The idea is to read about 10 to 15 profiles and look for what they all have in common and now you know where to make a difference to look different.

Adding a Photo: Building a relation may not entirely depend on the photo but yes, a photo plays a major role in it. Add a latest photo which is quiet clear and gives a professional look. But that doesn’t mean that you have to take a headshot. You can add any of your photos doing anything you love to, but please do check out for no common results again.

Easy Read Profile: You might be into online dating from a long time back, able to understand the terms like ‘SWF ISO SM’ (Single White Female In Search Of Single Male), but anyone who goes through your profile may not necessarily be knowing these terms, specially the new users, so avoid using such terms in your profile making it easy to read for all. Mostly people do not stay on a profile for long and if you use such terms, they may slip off a little earlier than normal.

Be Honest about yourself: This is a point which is ought to be remembered while writing about yourself. You should know one thing, sooner or later a person will come to know about you, so there’s no point lying at this point. Be what you are, write the truth, no matters if you are divorced, you have kids etc. Just be what you are and no need to hide. When a relation develops, there’s a bonding because of the trust and when small things come up later on the other person starts loosing the trust in you and your relation may end up nowhere, so it’s always better to say the truth no matters how hard it can be.

Keep Your Profile Simple: You are provided with a space to tell about yourself but that doesn’t mean that you have to write a full story mentioning all about you let the people imagine you from your profile. Create your profile in such a way that a person could read it in a minute or two or it can become a bit boring for some.

Spelling and Grammar: Always check your spelling and grammar twice before you post a profile. This is a common mistake made by most of the people. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your profile put up a question about your smartness. Smart people do not make such mistakes. You can also make someone read your profile before you post it, just to ensure about the grammatical errors.

Don’t Write All About you: No questions, this profile is to mention about you and who else?? I just want to convey that, mention you finer points in such a way that your profile doesn’t seems like a boasting thing, just try and be humble and remember to leave a space to mention about the kind of person you are looking for.

Mentioning About The Partner: Always mention specifically what you want your ideal partner to be like, mention a few respectful and realistic lines describing your partner which will in return help you find a compatible partner easily.

Look Alive: No one will ever want to be in relation with the person who is dull, so be passionate about your life, your hobbies. Look full of life!!

Make Changes: You can make changes to your profile anytime you want to, so it’s not necessary to worry about the perfection in the very first time, but you can and you should make the desired changes after a short span of time.

 

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What Do You Want From A Girlfriend?

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

Attract men everywhere 1The first step to getting a great girlfriend is deciding exactly what kind of woman would be right for you. You don’t want to settle for a woman who isn’t someone you like being around for more than just a little while. The point of getting a girlfriend is to have someone to have more fun with. If you get into a relationship and end up miserable, you’re doing something wrong. So first, decide exactly what you want. That’s the only way you’ll stand a chance at getting it. How do you want to date? Do you want fun, casual, short-term relationships with several women at once? Would you rather have one girlfriend who you really have fun with and respect? Do you want to date a few women casually at first and see if you’d like to get more serious later? Who do you want to date? A friendly, down-to-earth girl-next-door? Someone outgoing and adventurous? An elegant and sophisticated woman? A quiet and reserved type who saves most of her attention for you? Or again, several different women so that you can see who you enjoy being around the most? What are you going to do together? Do you want someone to go with to all the local clubs? Would you rather have a girlfriend who sits on the sidelines and cheers for you, or one who will jump right in the game? How about a girlfriend who enjoys a sport or hobby you’ve never tried? It’s a good idea to start working this out now, before you meet her and before she announces that she’s bored with dinner and a movie every time you go out. Right now, you might think that physical attraction is all that a relationship requires, and you’d be right for the first date…maybe. But eventually, if you haven’t thought through what you want to give and receive in your relationship, your girlfriend will get on your nerves until you have to break it off. But if you start off your relationship right, you’ll be much more likely to get a great girlfriend who you’ll never want to leave. Remember that you have to have something to offer in a relationship, too. What will that be? There are a few things that women want that will surprise you, and others that will seem incredibly obvious. And then there are other things that you thought were important that turn out not to matter at all. So what’s fact and what’s fiction?

 

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Spotting Online Dating Scams & Cheats

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingThe real world as well as the virtual world is full of scam artists, liars, cheaters, stalkers, and plenty of other types of unsavory characters. Both worlds are also full of honest, reliable, trustworthy, hard-working individuals as well. One of the biggest challenges facing those participating in online dating is learning how to tell the difference. Fortunately there are ways to know when you are being scammed and there are things you can do to protect yourself from becoming a victim. Trust Your Instincts Women especially seem to be in-tune with their gut feelings and this actually is one of your best defenses. Pay attention to your instincts because more often than not, they are picking up on vibes you might not be noticing. When your instincts start screaming at you to cease communicating with someone, just do it. You can question your instincts later on, if you want. Or you can start working your next prospective love match. Inconsistent Stories, Vague Responses There is a good chance you are being lied to or scammed when the person cannot keep his or her facts straight. Learn how to listen to the words you read and you will learn how to identify inconsistencies. They usually appear in the basic information another offers such as profession, age, marital status, hobbies and interests, even appearance. When someone cannot keep these basic facts straight, that person likely is lying. Talk on the Phone For your own safety and protection, always arrange to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet in person anyone you have met online. You will get a genuine feel for the person on the other end by doing so. If this person turns out to be the smoothest talker you have ever encountered, that should be a red flag. Also, if the person cannot seem to arrange a convenient time to talk on the phone, this is a bad sign and you should consider ending this relationship. Asking for Money Anytime someone you are communicating with online asks you for money or for your banking or credit card information or any other thing having to do with your personal finances, you are being set up to be scammed. Contrary to what people think, even the brightest, most worldly individuals have fallen victim to this type of scam. Even if you are being given the saddest, most unfortunate or dire story about why the other person needs your financial assistance, it is most likely a lie. It is in your best interest to stop all communication immediately, and this person should be reported, even if doing so makes you feel uncomfortable. Keep Personal Information Personal The more personal information you give out during your online communications, the more you increase your chances of being victimized. Don’t divulge your hometown, name of employer, last name, phone number, real email address, home address, nothing. If another person keeps insisting on this type of information from you, it’s time to move on.

 

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How to Fail at Online Dating

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingBeing Too Shy Many people think that online dating is a wonderful way for people who are shy to date. Well guess what? Being shy online will lead to just as many failed attempts at dating as it does in the offline world. If you don’t want to fail at online dating, you’ve got to come out of your shell. Being Passive Rather Than Active This is different than being shy. Passive daters are not fully committed to the idea of online dating. They approach it with half of their attention and most don’t commit to a paid membership which puts everyone at a disadvantage. Regardless of the reason for your passivity, whether you’re indecisive, fear rejection or are just too lazy, failing at online dating will be a blow to your ego. Cutting & Pasting Your Replies Some people will see through this masked attempt at originality. This type of correspondence is impersonal and if it’s all you’ve got time for, then perhaps you don’t really have enough time for dating. If you do this because you’re not good with words, then read how others respond to your messages and use these as guides. Nobody likes a form letter, especially when they’re looking for romance. Sounding Negative or Arrogant No one wants to talk to someone who is a downer or just the opposite, someone who cannot stop talking about him/herself. Keep your negative experiences to yourself. You’re starting anew and there is no need to drag your past into your future. And a successful relationship is a two-way relationship. If you do all the talking, it won’t ever develop into anything more than a one-way dead end. Making Overt or Borderline Sexually Harassing Comments Asking questions that are too personal or offering up blunt descriptions of what you think is an almost guaranteed way to scare off your prospective dates. Plus doing so could put your membership in jeopardy. Lying About Your Relationship Status You’ll get away with this type of lie for some period, but ultimately, always, this type of lie will come back to bite you and it will hurt either you or the person you’re involved with. Lying About Your Real Looks It’s tempting to use photo enhancement tools to make your photo more alluring. Plenty of online daters do this. Or they post a photo that is 10 or so years old. Whether your photo isn’t an accurate representation, or whether the words you use to describe your physical appearance are exaggerated, lying about your looks is another reason people fail at online dating. Corresponding Only with the ‘Hotties’ You’ve got just as much chance getting hooked up with the person behind the stunning image as you do if you saw that person at a trendy nightclub slim to none. That person will be bombarded with email and the chances of finding yours AND finding yours interesting are slim. Get back to reality or online dating will never work for you!

 

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A Few Blind Date Dos

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Dating and Events1Always be yourself on a date. Strive to always be truthful when answering your date’s questions. You should always remember that lying is NEVER a good idea. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is simply inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are. Also, you should share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail about yourself initially, but share with your date enough so that they’re tantalized about learning more. Give them a little history, share a little about your family, and tell them about what you do, things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share as much as you feel comfortable, without boring your date by talking too much about yourself. Listen carefully to your date. Let your date know that you are genuinely interested in them by listening to what they are choosing to share with you. Be respectful and stay focused, this way you’ll be able to respond accordingly when they ask you a question about what they’ve just shared with you. No one wants to go on a date with someone who isn’t listening to them, as this is tantamount to telling your date they aren’t worthy of your attention or respect. This will likely bring your date to a very abrupt end. Do be appropriate when you are talking to someone. You might not know how they believe or what they think about certain issues, so try to be positive and refrain from saying things about specific issues when you don’t know where they stand. Ask them how they feel before blurting out your views, so that you don’t hurt their feelings. Keep the conversation away from your past relationships. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.

 

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A Few Blind Date Don’ts

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Attracting women everywhere 1When you’re on a blind date, don’t lie. Strive to always be yourself. You needn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. After all, isn’t part of the dating quest to find someone who likes, and eventually loves you for YOU? Dishonesty will only lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date, and you sense that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that ultimately you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them.

Don’t bore your date with too many elaborate details about your past, unless they are very engaging, funny, or otherwise interesting details. You will be able to gage your date’s interest by any number of visual or auditory clues, most notably they smile and ask for you to elaborate! Talk a little about yourself but don’t go into too much detail, especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.

Don’t bogart the conversation. Try to listen carefully as well. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you appear to be overly self-centered, your date is not likely is to want to take you out on a date again, because all you do is talk about yourself.

Don’t bring up the past or reference your last relationship. This might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject!

Don’t be too opinioned right away. You don’t know how your date feels about various subjects, so if you start to talk about a potentially controversial subject, you might inadvertently offend or hurt your date by saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about subjects such as politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and proceed with tact. Remember to always be kind!

In short, it’s important to remember that when you’re on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable in any way. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might lead your date to misjudge who you are, or take you seriously about something that you don’t want to appear to feel seriously about. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things. In other words, keep the conversation light and breezy!

 

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Be Yourself on a Date!

Saturday, May 27th, 2006

Activities for datingAlways be yourself on a date. Lying, or any form of deception, is not a good idea when it comes to dates. It’s important to set a precedent of being honest with your dates, and to be truthful when they ask you questions. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are, how you feel, and what you believe. It’s simply EASIER to be yourself! Be prepared to share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail initially, but share with your date a bit about yourself so they can begin to get to know you. Share a little of your personal history, a little about your family, a little about what you do, touch on things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share what you feel comfortable speaking about, without boring them by talking too much about yourself. Think of it as a whirlwind synopsis of who you are! The intent is to not only tantalize your date with tidbits of information, but to generate sufficient interest on their part so they can ask questions, which helps you gain insight into what aspect of your life they find of greater interest!

 

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