Posts Tagged ‘connection’
Friday, February 27th, 2009
You had a fabulous time on the first date: He was so easy to talk to that you felt like you had known him for years. He seemed to have your same tastes in food and movies, and you were amazed at how well you got along and look forward to the next date. If you’re honest, you felt such a connection to him that you told your best friend that you may have found your Mr. Right. Then the next day passes with no phone call. After a week, you stop checking voice mail, email or making excuses for him and accept that he’s not going to call you. How do you handle the rejection? You could head for the ice cream shop and drown your sorrows in scoops of rich ice cream with cookies and sprinkles on top. Hanging around the house in an old bathrobe crying is another way to deal with the hurt you feel. Drinking alcohol, driving too fast or getting angry and trash-talking about him are other destructive ways to cope with your sadness. So far that’s a look at how you might act in private or with friends, but eventually you might run into him again. If you work in the same company or even within the same industry, chances are you’ll see him again. If you met him through friends, then you can count on landing in the same social setting before long. How you handle yourself in that situation is going to be seen by others, so you need to think it over before it happens to avoid making a fool of yourself over a guy who doesn’t deserve your attention. Maybe you’ve imagined how you might “tell him off” – but is that what you really want to do? First of all, if he didn’t care enough about you to call after the date as he said he would, then he simply doesn’t care what you think. Telling him how you feel won’t change him because he has no interest in you. If you do that, you are the one who looks foolish in front of friends or co-workers. Or you might be fantasizing about “showing him what he missed” by parading a new date in front of the last one. Reality check: He won’t care and your new guy won’t like being used to cause jealousy in another man. You lose on both counts. The longer you obsess about him, the more you build up something that’s more than what it ever was. You can analyze your dating conversation a thousand ways so that you eventually hear something that wasn’t said and believe something that never happened. That’s the power of obsession – it turns reality into fantasy that you begin to believe. Don’t resort to high school dating tricks like sending him anonymous cards that are sweet or sarcastic. And definitely don’t drive by his house at all hours to see who is with him. You can’t win him over by stalking him, just be glad that he realized you two weren’t right for each other and move on to find the one who will treasure you most. In short, as one friend aptly expressed: If someone’s dishonored you, don’t let them live rent-free in your head. Move On!!!
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Tags: communication, connection, conversation, dating, destructive, internet, Love, match, obsess, online, rejection, simpatico, social, sorrows, women
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Sunday, February 22nd, 2009
You’ve probably thought about going on a
blind date for a while now. When you go on a blind date, you are going to be meeting someone that you have never seen before, and that you probably won’t know much about. You might be concerned that the date isn’t going to go well, and you might feel like it is not going to be something that you ever want to do again.
However, sometimes a blind date goes well. It might be that you hit it off with the person you have been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone that your friends thought would be a good match for you. You friends tend to know you best, so if they think a person is someone you’d like, there is a good chance that this will be true. Sometimes, if you meet someone online or through a personal ad, you might also get lucky and end up falling for that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options for when this happens. If a blind date is going very well, you might want to tell the person that you are having a good time. This honest approach lets them see that you are really enjoying yourself, and you might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for another date. If a blind date goes well, but no one has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it is okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to do something again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes, if that’s what you want to do. Blind dates can indeed lead to something that lasts long-term, so you shouldn’t avoid going out on such dates just because you don’t know the person. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance of something more happening when you go on a blind date.
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Tags: blind-date, commitment, communication, connection, internet, match, meeting, online, women
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Friday, February 20th, 2009
Office romances are full of risk. Before you start flirting over the copy machine, think about where an office romance could take you. In fact, your company may have a firm policy discouraging dating a co-worker or at least dating a person within the same department. Even if there’s no policy, you need to decide what’s going to be your personal policy about dating that new hot guy in the next cubicle. Granted, you spend many hours weekly at work. It’s only natural that you form friendships at work and occasionally socialize with co-workers after hours. Time spent away from work pressures can be great for building rapport among co-workers. If your socializing turns into a romance, then all the rules change. You know that it’s tough enough to concentrate on the mundane chores of your job when your mind is swirling with images of your new man. But when he’s in the next cubicle, it gets much harder. With any new guy, it’s easy to want to sneak personal phone calls and rush out at 4:59 p.m. to get a jump on parking lot traffic just to be with him. Imagine how much more distracting a romance would be if your guy was only a few desks or a floor away from you all day long? Having your guy so close that you can sneak kisses in the supply room sounds wonderful, but it can also create some embarrassing situations. All of your relationship woes could – and probably would – become office fodder for the gossip mills. Harmless courtship actions like blatantly flirting aren’t bad, but they can easily become inappropriate in a workplace. You may think no one else notices, but think again. They notice, they watch and they talk. Then the first time you and your guy have a disagreement, you might as well post it on the office bulletin board. Everything about your demeanor and your reactions toward each other show when you’re having a fight. Then the grapevine heats up with speculation about how long before the romance is over and you two might even be teased about it. It’s not unheard of for co-workers to place bets on how long the relationship will last. That’s not reserved just for sitcoms on TV. If you think these situations might feel uncomfortable at work, there’s only one way to make it worse – and that’s to date your boss. Whether he’s your immediate supervisor in the department or the Vice President in the corner office, you’re going to be seen as a social climber. Anything good that happens to you, even if it’s a reward for work you did last quarter is going to be seen as favoritism because you’re dating the boss. So if you really do find romance in the office with a co-worker or the boss, consider changing departments or company locations to put some healthy distance between you and him and you.
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Tags: co-worker, connection, courtship, dates, dating, discretion, distraction, flirting, gossip, romance, workplace
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Sunday, September 25th, 2005
Sometimes a blind date goes well! It is indeed possible to hit it off with someone you’ve been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone your friends thought would be a good match for you. Your friends often know you best, so if they sense that someone they know may be a good match, there’s a good chance this will be true. You might also have the good fortune of meeting someone online or through a personal ad and end up falling with that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options. You might want to be honest and simply tell your date that you are having a good time. This will allow your date to see that you are genuinely enjoying yourself. You might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for, and arranging, another date. If a blind date goes well, but neither of you has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it’s okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to get together again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes! Blind dates can indeed lead to something that is going to last a while, so you shouldn’t keep yourself from going out on dates just because you don’t know the person at all. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance something more happening when you go on a blind date!
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Tags: blind-date, connection, conversation, dates, dating, long-lasting, Love, match, meeting, relationship
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