Posts Tagged ‘blind-date’
Friday, February 27th, 2009
Where you meet a woman has the power to define the rest of your relationship. This is true because of three things: First, because where a woman spends most of her time says a lot about the kind of person she is. If she’s outgoing and likes to party, chances are you’ll meet her at a club. If she’s athletic and competitive, you might find her at a race. If she’s into humanitarian causes, you might bump into her while building a house for Habitat for Humanity. Second, she’ll remember where you met, and that will affect her perception of you. If you meet her at a club, she might assume you only want a casual relationship. If your friends introduce you to her, she’ll know that your friends and her friends already think you might be a good couple, and you’ll probably still see each other sometimes even if you break up. Third, if she makes a big impression on you when you meet, you’ll also remember what circumstances you met under. You might always think of her as the wild girl at the club, even if she normally doesn’t go to clubs. These things set the tone for your relationship. Of course, the circumstances that you meet under don’t have to define the rest of the relationship, but it takes work to erase any negative impressions either one of you might have made. And the very beginning of a relationship is not a good time for problems. The best place to meet women is during the course of your real life. You shouldn’t have to go out of your way to meet women. If you don’t see women with the potential to be great girlfriends during your everyday routine, then you need to get out more – literally. Don’t worry about coming across someone perfect unexpectedly. That’s really the best way to meet women. It’s hard to look desperate for a girlfriend when you’re just going about your business. You can be approachable and attractive even when you aren’t trying to be. Learning how to meet women anywhere makes dating easier on you in the long run. If the only reason you went somewhere was to find single women, you’re going to have a hard time explaining why you don’t want to go back when you have a girlfriend. Desperate men chase after women, and you don’t have to be desperate. Meet women wherever you are and leave a good impression, and sooner or later one is going to show you that she’s interested.
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Tags: blind-date, clubs, correspondence, dates, dating, desperate, image, impression, instincts, location, meeting, online, preparation, rules, safety
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Friday, February 27th, 2009
There are many things that you need to keep in mind when it comes to ablind date, and safety is paramount. If you are going on a blind date with someone who your friends know, or your family has set you up with, you can be reasonably sure that this is someone your family or your friends trust. However, you can never be too careful, because oftentimes people will present themselves someway and will act totally different. You need to be consistently cautious when you are going on a blind date, no matter how you got set up. It is especially important to be extra cautious when going on a blind date with someone you met over the internet, via a dating service, or advertisement. It is important that you use caution because over the internet or dating services, a person can present themselves in any number of ways, and none of these ways might be how they actually are. You never really know who you are going to be dealing with when it comes to a blind date. In order to be safe on a blind date, you first need to make sure that you know exactly where you are going. If the location is in an area you are unfamiliar with, be sure to bring explicit directions. If you sense the location is not in an appropriately safe area, change it! Pick a location that is well lit and well populated, like a busy restaurant or other place where you know there will be a lot of people. Tell your friends and/or family where you will be, when you expect to be there, and share any and all details about who you will be with. Be certain you have your cell phone with you at all times, and that it is fully charged! If you ever feel uncomfortable about anything transpiring during the date, you should have a friend that is ready and willing to come at the drop of a hat and pick you up, wherever you are. You should also have the number of a taxi service ready as well, so that you can call them if you can’t find another ride. Remember that if you ever feel uncomfortable on a blind date, or wish the date to be over, you have the right to conclude the date immediately. Trust your instincts. You often know better than you think about recognizing both good and questionable situations. Your instincts will rarely let you down, and might even save your life.
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Tags: blind-date, caution, cautious, dates, dating, instincts, internet, intuition, match, meeting, men, online, preparation, relationship, safe, safety
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Friday, February 27th, 2009
Always be yourself on a date. Strive to always be truthful when answering your date’s questions. You should always remember that lying is NEVER a good idea. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is simply inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are. Also, you should share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail about yourself initially, but share with your date enough so that they’re tantalized about learning more. Give them a little history, share a little about your family, and tell them about what you do, things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share as much as you feel comfortable, without boring your date by talking too much about yourself. Listen carefully to your date. Let your date know that you are genuinely interested in them by listening to what they are choosing to share with you. Be respectful and stay focused, this way you’ll be able to respond accordingly when they ask you a question about what they’ve just shared with you. No one wants to go on a date with someone who isn’t listening to them, as this is tantamount to telling your date they aren’t worthy of your attention or respect. This will likely bring your date to a very abrupt end. Do be appropriate when you are talking to someone. You might not know how they believe or what they think about certain issues, so try to be positive and refrain from saying things about specific issues when you don’t know where they stand. Ask them how they feel before blurting out your views, so that you don’t hurt their feelings. Keep the conversation away from your past relationships. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.
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Tags: blind-date, comfortable, dates, dating, honest, match, meeting, men, personal-history, relationship, truthful, woman
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Friday, February 27th, 2009
When you’re on a blind date, don’t lie. Strive to always be yourself. You needn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. After all, isn’t part of the dating quest to find someone who likes, and eventually loves you for YOU? Dishonesty will only lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date, and you sense that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that ultimately you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them.
Don’t bore your date with too many elaborate details about your past, unless they are very engaging, funny, or otherwise interesting details. You will be able to gage your date’s interest by any number of visual or auditory clues, most notably they smile and ask for you to elaborate! Talk a little about yourself but don’t go into too much detail, especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.
Don’t bogart the conversation. Try to listen carefully as well. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you appear to be overly self-centered, your date is not likely is to want to take you out on a date again, because all you do is talk about yourself.
Don’t bring up the past or reference your last relationship. This might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject!
Don’t be too opinioned right away. You don’t know how your date feels about various subjects, so if you start to talk about a potentially controversial subject, you might inadvertently offend or hurt your date by saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about subjects such as politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and proceed with tact. Remember to always be kind!
In short, it’s important to remember that when you’re on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable in any way. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might lead your date to misjudge who you are, or take you seriously about something that you don’t want to appear to feel seriously about. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things. In other words, keep the conversation light and breezy!
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Tags: beliefs, blind-date, dates, dating, dishonesty, engaging, fun, funny, honest, interests, men, relationship, values, woman
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Sunday, February 22nd, 2009
You’ve probably thought about going on a
blind date for a while now. When you go on a blind date, you are going to be meeting someone that you have never seen before, and that you probably won’t know much about. You might be concerned that the date isn’t going to go well, and you might feel like it is not going to be something that you ever want to do again.
However, sometimes a blind date goes well. It might be that you hit it off with the person you have been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone that your friends thought would be a good match for you. You friends tend to know you best, so if they think a person is someone you’d like, there is a good chance that this will be true. Sometimes, if you meet someone online or through a personal ad, you might also get lucky and end up falling for that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options for when this happens. If a blind date is going very well, you might want to tell the person that you are having a good time. This honest approach lets them see that you are really enjoying yourself, and you might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for another date. If a blind date goes well, but no one has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it is okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to do something again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes, if that’s what you want to do. Blind dates can indeed lead to something that lasts long-term, so you shouldn’t avoid going out on such dates just because you don’t know the person. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance of something more happening when you go on a blind date.
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Tags: blind-date, commitment, communication, connection, internet, match, meeting, online, women
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Friday, April 18th, 2008
When out on a date, it’s strongly advised that you also stay away from “bash fests” about your ex, pointing out all their flaws and limitations. Talking about your ex might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date, but you’re usually not distant enough from an ex-spouse or partner to be able to do this without a hidden agenda or re-expose unresolved hurt. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject! You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.
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Tags: blind-date, communication, concerns, dates, dating, discretion, exes, relationship, romantic
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Saturday, October 14th, 2006
You’ve heard people talking about it. You’ve probably even seen advertisements for it on television. But for some reason, you haven’t yet given online dating a try. Perhaps you’re a bit nervous. Perhaps you don’t know a lot about computers and the Internet. Perhaps you’ll think less of yourself if you try and find companionship using technology rather than your personality. These concerns are understandable, but when you consider that millions of men and women are doing it every day, you’ve got to think that maybe online dating isn’t so bad.
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Tags: blind-date, companionship, concerns, dates, dating, Love, match, meeting, nervous, relationship, romantic, technology, women
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Sunday, September 25th, 2005
Sometimes a blind date goes well! It is indeed possible to hit it off with someone you’ve been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone your friends thought would be a good match for you. Your friends often know you best, so if they sense that someone they know may be a good match, there’s a good chance this will be true. You might also have the good fortune of meeting someone online or through a personal ad and end up falling with that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options. You might want to be honest and simply tell your date that you are having a good time. This will allow your date to see that you are genuinely enjoying yourself. You might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for, and arranging, another date. If a blind date goes well, but neither of you has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it’s okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to get together again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes! Blind dates can indeed lead to something that is going to last a while, so you shouldn’t keep yourself from going out on dates just because you don’t know the person at all. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance something more happening when you go on a blind date!
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Tags: blind-date, connection, conversation, dates, dating, long-lasting, Love, match, meeting, relationship
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