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Wouldn’t it be great if there were a way to learn a man instantly, and to see what he’s thinking even without him saying it?  Well, there is!  It’s called body language.  You can tell a lot from a man just in the short time it takes for him to approach you at a party.  This blog will cover some basic information on the typical male entrance.

By now you probably already know what it takes to attract a man over to you.  A smile, eye contact, a welcoming though subtle demeanor, and that gentle gaze down to the floor.  Few men can resist a pretty face.  However, when he finally approaches you then it’s time to seriously evaluate him.  As the man walks towards you, you will find yourself analyzing his movements and either building up an attraction or feeling less of one.  This is DNA-related, already built in; we bring in the hunter and then evaluate the prospects for a happy family.  (Children and marriage may not be included, but it’s the instinct that counts!)   

In other words, these are the crucial moments where we decide to either let the man pursue us, or run for our lives.  When looking at a man’s face, body and posturing we tend to notice four qualities.  First, his confidence.  This is the alpha-male stance that instinctually drives us, whether we end up with the guy or not.  Second, we consider his health and level of aliveness.  It’s only natural to want a man that is in good health and seems mentally sound and alert to romantic possibilities.  Third, we notice his masculinity and attractiveness, such as his choice of clothing, and his macho, sexy nature.  Fourth, we look for social skills. 

When we see that a man is comfortable and confident in all of these qualities, we determine whether he is mature.  You might even say, we look to see if he demonstrates that sort of true-blue “alpha maleness” that separates the lovers from the friends.  You can tell a lot about a man from the way he carries himself on that first impression.

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Did you know that your body language can play a major part in your relationships?  If you have ever studied the basics of human courtship, then you may already know that men are usually depicted as the “hunters”.  The women they pursue usually reflect the “best” aspects of American society.  Men want to look successful and so seek out not just the prettiest face or the woman with the most attractive figure- he wants the whole package. 

However, not every woman who lands a great guy is a supermodel or movie star.  How do they do it?  What draws the average man to women today?  It’s not all about appearances.  Men are visual creatures but they pay attention to more than just the level of attractiveness.  They also notice gesturing, preening, facial expressions and other forms of body language. 

Most of all, men who take on the role of “hunter” in relationships, are looking for women that have movement.  You might liken this philosophy to a jungle setting.  The hunter carefully scans his surroundings and looks for a satisfying prey.  That “prey” looks healthy, attractive and is in constant movement.

Is this a primitive view of romance?  Yes, but we can’t deny the fact that as human beings, we are animals—living organisms characterized by voluntary movement.  Biologically speaking, there are certain forces of nature at work.  Men respond visually, women respond emotionally, and the two creatures communicate through body language and conversation.

Some popular examples of female body language might include playing with the hair, “exposing” parts like shoulders, upper arms and backs or keeping eye contact.  Remember it’s the “movement” that counts.  There are many details involved in courtship, and sometimes being oblivious to the signs can sabotage a person’s dating potential.  The more you learn about courtship and dating, the more you will grow in your relationships. 

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Okay, it takes a lot more than three easy steps to steal a man’s heart.  Then again, a lot of men believe in “love at first sight.”  So you keep these three steps in mind the next time you see a cute guy looking your direction.

1. Catch His Attention

You must do your part to attract a man’s attention, even if your gestures are very subtle.  First, try catching his attention as he looks around, gazing directly into his eyes.  Eye contact is important if you want to make a connection.  Flash a gentle smile when you know he is looking at you.  Whenever your eyes meet, hold the gaze for a moment, longer than you ordinarily would.  Without this prolonged contact, your face will not register with him.

2. Enjoy a Psychic Connection

At this point he may or may not come over to you so you have to keep the interaction going somehow.  Try and make a “psychic” connection.  Continue talking to him silently in your head and beckon him to come to you.  Imagine what you are saying and how he is responding.  Whether this actually produces any psychic attraction or is just helping to influence your body language for the positive, it works.

3. Smile and Drop It!

Wear a slight smile on your face, because smiling is always associated with good times and a safe dating situation.  After smiling, try dropping your gaze to a table or to the floor.  This gives the go!-signal needed for him to approach you.  Here you are suggesting loud and clear that if he summons the courage to go up and talk to you, he won’t regret it.  You will reward him with a fun and enlivening conversation.

After these three steps, sit or stand quietly in place and wait for him to approach.  If he still is reluctant to approach you then try giving him a coy look (raised eyebrows,.tilt of your head, etc.) to repeat the process.  We could go on, but chances are, he’s already next to you striking up a conversation! 

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This article isn’t meant to disparage men in anyway.  Rather, it’s to expose the male persona for what it is: a big, sensitive overgrown child.  This is a bit of a secret, as no man wants to be known as childlike, since machismo and power are so important to the male ID and ego.  However, sometimes we don’t give them enough credit regarding their sensitive side.

Men have egos, like we all do, and they do not like rejection.  Some men may enjoy the thrill of a “challenge”, but it’s only with the thought that this challenging woman can be “won over.”  Rejection after rejection?  It gets depressing!  Knowing this, it shouldn’t surprise us to learn that men do want positive feedback when they are ready to flirt. 

Men are not likely to hit on somebody that shows strong signs of discomfort and avoidance.  Furthermore, men usually do not approach women who they think will be undesired by other members of the male species.  It’s a very competitive society in the male world.  This is why most men go for pretty and physically appealing women.

Therefore, the simplest advice that can be given to women, on how to meet men, is to pretty yourself up and be receptive to their attention.  You do have to do this subtly, as too much too soon could be intimidating.  Nevertheless, the basic answer as to how to create attraction all goes back to DNA and science. 

A man’s DNA is programmed in such a way that it embodies an ancient hunter.  The hunter always notices its “prey” moving about and exhibiting signs of healthy activity.  Therefore, always strive to catch his eye by looking vibrant, happy and interested.  You can learn some of these techniques from courses and packages.  Learn this lesson and you will never be alone again.

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