All of us have satellite friends who flit in and out of our lives, hanging around long enough to have a little fun, and then skedaddle. If we’re fortunate, however, we have another class of friends who are so loyal that, as the saying goes, they’re the ones who show up on moving day. These are the friends who generally have your back in every conceivable way, and are the friends you need to pay attention to when they express genuine concerns about any aspect of your life – including dates. As a general rule of thumb, if one of your loyal friends expresses concern about your new date, you may be able to easily toss it off as a random judgment. If a second of your loyal friends expresses concern, it is advisable to be on alert, and spend a little time trying to ascertain whether you’re viewing the new relationship accurately. What are your friends seeing that you may be missing? If yet a third loyal friend expresses concern about your new date, a definitive pattern has been established, and at this point it’s highly advisable that you step back and take serious stock of the situation. It may have been difficult for your friends to have even made the comments they did, waiting and hoping for you to openly dialog about the subject. So at this point, do it! Ask your friends to elaborate on their observations and perceptions. Ask them for specific examples of what they see. Why, specifically are they all expressing concern? In the end, you may decide to proceed with your date, but you’ll be doing so with far more awareness of, and attention to, possible problem areas with your date.
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