Much of your future relationship with a man will be determined in the first few minutes of your meeting. You will immediately deduce (whether consciously or subconsciously) if he’s confident in himself, happy and mentally well adjusted. You can also tell a lot about a man from the gestures and physical body language he uses when approaching you. For instance, does he keep a distance from you, perhaps indicating a lack of self-confidence? Does he come in too close, making you feel uncomfortable or like he’s invading your personal space?
After the physical part of first impressions comes the first conversation. Usually the man leads, and in most cases, he has already been thinking of a clever “pickup line.” Men know that first impressions last and so put a lot of thought into their opening lines. A man may also believe that other people are looking at him as he tries to approach a woman, so he may have to summon up the courage to go through with this “monumental” event.
What he says next will undoubtedly tell a lot about that person. Is he trying to come across as intelligent and does it succeed? Does he have the tendency to rely on humor so that the situation is not so serious (and so the rejection isn’t so awkward)? Then again, there’s always that special guy that works up the nerve to approach you just so he can say something shocking or inappropriate, indicating he’s probably just after sex. (Always one of those, right?)
What follows the pickup line is the introduction, where he introduces himself and awaits a reaction. For better results in your love life, try to be friendly and accommodating (unless you really dislike him). Repeat his name if he gives it to you, or if necessary, you can ask his name and share yours. (Some guys are shy enough to neglect this important step).
All in all, remember that the introduction is one of the most defining moments of a relationship. Be kind, but be smart.
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