Archive for the ‘Dating & Children’ Category

How to Get a Man’s Attention

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Dating Great MenHow can you get an attractive man’s attention?  Chances are, if this guy is good looking and successful with women he’s used to being looked at and “scouted.”  You may have to work a little harder to capture his attention and keep him interested.  That doesn’t mean you have to go all Rosie O’Donnell on him and badger him into talking to you.  It does however, require a strategy. 

 

Your first move in attracting a man’s attention should be to have a good “seat in the house.”  This should be a place where you can relax and let a conversation unfold naturally.  This is a good strategic move that lets you better position yourself, so that you have full view of the man you’re interested in, and likewise, so that he can see you.  This is like a scene in great Hollywood romance.  You’re setting up the scene for something beautiful to happen.  Don’t ruin it by acting like a stalker.  Don’t stare too intensely, or with any sort of grimace or blank look. 

 

Instead, your body language should be very soft and graceful.  You should move confidently, slowly, and methodically.  You can speed up the pace you move at, but always do it gracefully.  You have to allow time for men to notice you, to see that you are alive, healthy and generally happy.

 

At this point it might be a good idea to start using feminine, positive body language.  You could run your fingers through your hair, smooth the hem of your skirt or simply tussle around with things in your purse.  Men are naturally attracted to women who show movement.

 

You might even say that because men are instinctive hunters, they wait to see woman full of grace and femininity before they “pounce.”  Men always want to “keep their eyes on the prize”, that is a beautiful woman to “protect”.  You can attract this attention by accentuating your own graceful features!

 

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My Kids Don’t Like Who I’m Dating

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Date at any age1Are your kids having a hard time warming up to your dating partner? Are they bluntly telling you that they dislike the person you’re dating? This can be due to a variety of factors including jealousy over your time they feel is taken away from them, anger towards anyone who may appear to be displacing their mom or dad, or your child’s perception that he or she is protecting you from any future hurt in your life. It helps to sit down individually with each child to explore the underlying feelings and their source. One suggestion that can be helpful is to have your date spend time alone with the child that dislikes him or her. They may actually get along much better in your absence. This is a common occurrence when the parent isn’t in the mix. They tend to work things out naturally, and you needn’t always assume the role of mediator. Are there certain qualities about your partner that you can see may be difficult for your child? For instance, is there a certain tone of voice your date may be using, or an offensive habit your date doesn’t realize he or she engages in? It could also be that your date doesn’t realize that they are being too critical or they continually interrupt others when they speak. If this is the case and it seems that the absence of this quality would enable your partner to experience personal growth, and you’re reasonable confident that your date is open to constructive dialog, it’s worth trying to discuss the subject. This has to be pointed out artfully and of course they may or not be motivated to make the commitment, and take the necessary steps, to change. If your kids have disliked everyone you’ve ever dated, this would tend to suggest that the issue isn’t about the specific person you are dating, but has more to do with the child’s fear that the other parent is systematically being “replaced”. Encourage your child to try to open up about their feelings. This isn’t always easy, especially during the teenage years. Share with your child a little about your insecurities about your own parents’ interaction and let them view you a bit as how you were as a kid and not just in your parenting role. Kids connect more when spoken to as an equal, where appropriate. Drawn on your own childhood experiences, and try to understand your child’s perspective, and provide the reassurance they need to feel comfortable enough to give your relationship a chance.

 

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Don’t Talk About Your “Ex”!

Friday, April 18th, 2008

Dating skillsWhen out on a date, it’s strongly advised that you also stay away from “bash fests” about your ex, pointing out all their flaws and limitations. Talking about your ex might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date, but you’re usually not distant enough from an ex-spouse or partner to be able to do this without a hidden agenda or re-expose unresolved hurt. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject! You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.

 

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