Archive for the ‘Dating Men’ Category

How to Get a Man’s Attention

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Dating Great MenHow can you get an attractive man’s attention?  Chances are, if this guy is good looking and successful with women he’s used to being looked at and “scouted.”  You may have to work a little harder to capture his attention and keep him interested.  That doesn’t mean you have to go all Rosie O’Donnell on him and badger him into talking to you.  It does however, require a strategy. 

 

Your first move in attracting a man’s attention should be to have a good “seat in the house.”  This should be a place where you can relax and let a conversation unfold naturally.  This is a good strategic move that lets you better position yourself, so that you have full view of the man you’re interested in, and likewise, so that he can see you.  This is like a scene in great Hollywood romance.  You’re setting up the scene for something beautiful to happen.  Don’t ruin it by acting like a stalker.  Don’t stare too intensely, or with any sort of grimace or blank look. 

 

Instead, your body language should be very soft and graceful.  You should move confidently, slowly, and methodically.  You can speed up the pace you move at, but always do it gracefully.  You have to allow time for men to notice you, to see that you are alive, healthy and generally happy.

 

At this point it might be a good idea to start using feminine, positive body language.  You could run your fingers through your hair, smooth the hem of your skirt or simply tussle around with things in your purse.  Men are naturally attracted to women who show movement.

 

You might even say that because men are instinctive hunters, they wait to see woman full of grace and femininity before they “pounce.”  Men always want to “keep their eyes on the prize”, that is a beautiful woman to “protect”.  You can attract this attention by accentuating your own graceful features!

 

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How to Attract the Man You Want

Thursday, October 8th, 2009

Dark tall handsomeHave you ever wished that you could attract, not just any man, but the kind of man you want?  Maybe you have even had fantasies of attracting a Johnny Depp or Vin Diesel-caliber guy, someone who looks as good as you, someone that you deserve.  How can you do this?  It’s not about destiny or the “it” factor.  You are capable of attracting any man you want.  It’s all a matter of using the right body language.

Body language is one of the most important factors in dating, and unlike ordinary conversation, you can use it practically anywhere.  You can use strategic body language at a concert, at a dinner, party, at a coffee shop or even a grocery store.  What?  At a grocery store of all places?  Surely not!  Yes I am serious, and you can call me Shirley.  (Wink, wink)  Seriously, you don’t have to make a spectacle of yourself just because you want to show a little friendly body language.  You can just as easily pick up groceries as you can show some interest to a person that you like. 

 

In fact, it’s better if you do than if you don’t.  The fact of the matter is that most men are scared to death of approaching a beautiful woman because he is afraid of rejection.  There are a few dynamite playboys out there who laugh in the face of rejection, but on the inside, they’re hurting.  Most cute guys you meet will be hesitant, perhaps even a little bit shy, and all the more so when they approach you in an “ordinary environment.”

 

It’s up to you to encourage their efforts by showing friendly body language.  You have to make it a point to show you are on the lookout.  Never underestimate how much attention men are paying to a woman’s body!  Just the slightest bit of hair play, eye contact or gesturing can send definite signals to even the most oblivious gentleman. 

 

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Creating an Online Dating Profile

Friday, April 17th, 2009

How to talk about yourself on a date-1To join an online dating service, you need to create a member profile which helps you to describe yourself as to who you are, what you are and what are you looking for? Although you may answer every question as you wish to but before that I would like you to know that there would be many profiles which would have common content. Do you wish to be one of those who share same content on their profile or you want to look different? But of course, you would want to stand out of the crowd. To be different from others in creating an eye catching dating profile you should take care of few things which I am going to mention. Here you go…

The first thing which I would like to mention is take you time building a dating profile. You have to present yourself to the best possibility for a match so be patient and take time building your profile.

Create a unique headline specifying your most passionate thing and it will certainly help you out finding someone sharing the same thing and may be you turn out more compatible with that person.

Look Different: A Profile allows you to demonstrate yourself in front of the world, so you need to be very careful about your answers to some common questions. The idea is to read about 10 to 15 profiles and look for what they all have in common and now you know where to make a difference to look different.

Adding a Photo: Building a relation may not entirely depend on the photo but yes, a photo plays a major role in it. Add a latest photo which is quiet clear and gives a professional look. But that doesn’t mean that you have to take a headshot. You can add any of your photos doing anything you love to, but please do check out for no common results again.

Easy Read Profile: You might be into online dating from a long time back, able to understand the terms like ‘SWF ISO SM’ (Single White Female In Search Of Single Male), but anyone who goes through your profile may not necessarily be knowing these terms, specially the new users, so avoid using such terms in your profile making it easy to read for all. Mostly people do not stay on a profile for long and if you use such terms, they may slip off a little earlier than normal.

Be Honest about yourself: This is a point which is ought to be remembered while writing about yourself. You should know one thing, sooner or later a person will come to know about you, so there’s no point lying at this point. Be what you are, write the truth, no matters if you are divorced, you have kids etc. Just be what you are and no need to hide. When a relation develops, there’s a bonding because of the trust and when small things come up later on the other person starts loosing the trust in you and your relation may end up nowhere, so it’s always better to say the truth no matters how hard it can be.

Keep Your Profile Simple: You are provided with a space to tell about yourself but that doesn’t mean that you have to write a full story mentioning all about you let the people imagine you from your profile. Create your profile in such a way that a person could read it in a minute or two or it can become a bit boring for some.

Spelling and Grammar: Always check your spelling and grammar twice before you post a profile. This is a common mistake made by most of the people. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your profile put up a question about your smartness. Smart people do not make such mistakes. You can also make someone read your profile before you post it, just to ensure about the grammatical errors.

Don’t Write All About you: No questions, this profile is to mention about you and who else?? I just want to convey that, mention you finer points in such a way that your profile doesn’t seems like a boasting thing, just try and be humble and remember to leave a space to mention about the kind of person you are looking for.

Mentioning About The Partner: Always mention specifically what you want your ideal partner to be like, mention a few respectful and realistic lines describing your partner which will in return help you find a compatible partner easily.

Look Alive: No one will ever want to be in relation with the person who is dull, so be passionate about your life, your hobbies. Look full of life!!

Make Changes: You can make changes to your profile anytime you want to, so it’s not necessary to worry about the perfection in the very first time, but you can and you should make the desired changes after a short span of time.

 

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Joining an Online Dating Website: Take Care Tips

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009

Dating service scam-1Online Dating is an industry which is growing at an incredible rate in the world of today. This industry consists of millions of dating profiles and the rate of addition of new profiles is remarkably around as many as a minimum of a many thousands per day, a huge thing!! There are many websites which are offering you Dating Services, some of which may charge you a few bucks monthly or yearly etc. Whereas, there are many websites which offer you free Dating Services. You can choose either a paid service or a free service, it’s up to you. To have a successful online dating you need to choose the service carefully. Choosing a Dating Service is quiet easy, you should know about the following things which will lead you to the success: –

You should know that there are a many dating services which aren’t reliable.  It’s always a good idea to check out for reviews more than one if possible, just to be sure that the sources are unbiased. If you do not follow the idea of checking reviews properly, you may land up joining a dating service with outdated or inactive member profiles, so be careful before joining and making any payments.

Few sites use a dishonest marketing technique, they would attract your attention by offering you to create a free member profile on their website, but sooner you will me mailed a message stating that you have a private message from so & so opposite sex member, in spite of the fact that you may not have created your profile in detail or added your picture to your profile you receive a private message. Now, to read a private message you need to be a paid user and they (dating service providers) will ask you to make a payment to read the message. DO NOT MAKE ANY PAYMENT TO SUCH SITES. It’s no use. It is only a marketing technique and there is no such member profile that messaged you. Even if you try, you will find no response from that member in spite of making the payment on the same day. Not all the sites are dishonest, but a few sites use this tactic.

Now, after a good search you know a good & genuine dating service. Now you need to create a profile in that dating service. All done with choosing a dating service now?? NO. Here, I would like to advice you to check whether the dating service is offering you to create a profile by answering some pre written questions or customize your profile a bit. Now, this is important. Do not select a dating service which is offering you to create a profile on above mentioned measure; this will just add a limit to your description. Instead choose a dating service which allows you to create your profile as you want, defining no limits to how you want to display yourself in front of other member of the service.

 

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Is Online Dating a Boon or a Bust?

Saturday, March 7th, 2009

Online DatingClick, Find Love.

Is this a new movie or a title of a book focusing in love on the Internet? Think You’ve got mail, Must love dogs and Napoleon Dynamite, all films geared towards finding love or partners online. Have we really lost the era of romanticism?

While it is undeniable that a large number of people have found its way to online dating, it is certainly not regarded as a last recourse for those who have had a challenging time looking for dates. In fact, online dating is just like putting up a personal ad in a magazine or newspaper, a popular method in the late 80’s and early 90’s although online dating is much faster and more convenient.

What you get with online dating is the same as the personal ads in print, with so much more benefits and options. It’s still a blind chase but at least you get to check on it everyday, like tracking down how many people viewed your profile, you get instant messages in a matter of seconds and responses to messages are instantaneous.

While some have thanked their lucky stars for online dating, some sees this as a curse, fit for the preying for online wolves. Admittedly, a lot of shady persons have used the cloak of anonymity of the Internet to mask their true intentions. Profiles are not completely honest, old photos are uploaded and some even have the audacity to ask for money.

There have even been reports of some people from different countries meet up, some women lured into sex in promise of a new comfortable life and probably marriage. But to the credit of online dating, there have also been a lot of success stories involving a happy marriage or union.

Another known problems are with some online dating sites that have padded their member list with “bait” profiles, putting up more members to show that they have a vast membership. This would let a potential member think that there is a lot of people he or she can meet on the site and their chances of meeting a person they could probably like to get to know would grow higher.

But even with those mentioned problems, the popularity of online dating is rising at the speed and strength of a careening freight train at top speed. More and more websites have mushroomed and more people are signing up, sometimes even to more than two online dating sites.

The grasp of online dating sites extends to people who find the “chase” exciting and thrilling, the mystique of meeting a complete stranger adds up to the excitement.

There are also a good number of online dating aficionados that are relatively shy and would only be able to effectively communicate with other people behind the monitor using the keyboard as their mouthpiece.

Be it either for a short- or long-term relationship, online dating sites have already proven its effectivity and reliability with a startling ratio of success stories.

In fact, in 2004, US residents alone have spent $469.5 million in online dating sites, covering the fees. Online dating is now regarded as the largest industry in the paid website content.

There are now more than a thousand online dating sites, growing at en estimate of 35 percent increase each year. Shares in the market though are dominated by a couple of large websites which includes league giants Yahoo with Yahoo Personals, American Singles and Match.com to name a few.

But online dating is not only for us Americans, although we do dominate the market. The online dating bug has also bitten Europe with increased memberships seen and more and more European online dating sites popping up.

With the trend in growth going sky high, it wouldn’t be a wonder that five to ten years from know, a great number of married couple would attribute their meeting to online dating.

But unlike a romantic movie, not all person that you meet online is a prince just waiting to ride his white horse or a damsel in distress in a high tower just waiting to drop her hair for you to climb and live happily ever after.

Get to know a person thoroughly first and if possible, get him or her to show herself or himself through a webcam, then gradually go to talking through phones. Take it slow before agreeing to personally meet each other.

Click, Find Love – It might as well be the start of your own love story.

 

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Spotting Online Dating Scams & Cheats

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingThe real world as well as the virtual world is full of scam artists, liars, cheaters, stalkers, and plenty of other types of unsavory characters. Both worlds are also full of honest, reliable, trustworthy, hard-working individuals as well. One of the biggest challenges facing those participating in online dating is learning how to tell the difference. Fortunately there are ways to know when you are being scammed and there are things you can do to protect yourself from becoming a victim. Trust Your Instincts Women especially seem to be in-tune with their gut feelings and this actually is one of your best defenses. Pay attention to your instincts because more often than not, they are picking up on vibes you might not be noticing. When your instincts start screaming at you to cease communicating with someone, just do it. You can question your instincts later on, if you want. Or you can start working your next prospective love match. Inconsistent Stories, Vague Responses There is a good chance you are being lied to or scammed when the person cannot keep his or her facts straight. Learn how to listen to the words you read and you will learn how to identify inconsistencies. They usually appear in the basic information another offers such as profession, age, marital status, hobbies and interests, even appearance. When someone cannot keep these basic facts straight, that person likely is lying. Talk on the Phone For your own safety and protection, always arrange to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet in person anyone you have met online. You will get a genuine feel for the person on the other end by doing so. If this person turns out to be the smoothest talker you have ever encountered, that should be a red flag. Also, if the person cannot seem to arrange a convenient time to talk on the phone, this is a bad sign and you should consider ending this relationship. Asking for Money Anytime someone you are communicating with online asks you for money or for your banking or credit card information or any other thing having to do with your personal finances, you are being set up to be scammed. Contrary to what people think, even the brightest, most worldly individuals have fallen victim to this type of scam. Even if you are being given the saddest, most unfortunate or dire story about why the other person needs your financial assistance, it is most likely a lie. It is in your best interest to stop all communication immediately, and this person should be reported, even if doing so makes you feel uncomfortable. Keep Personal Information Personal The more personal information you give out during your online communications, the more you increase your chances of being victimized. Don’t divulge your hometown, name of employer, last name, phone number, real email address, home address, nothing. If another person keeps insisting on this type of information from you, it’s time to move on.

 

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How to Succeed at Online Dating

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Invest in a Paid Membership To really get the most out of online dating, you should invest in a paid membership. Free memberships and trial memberships are good when you are trying to find the online dating service that will best match your needs and goals so once you have found a site you are comfortable with, take the plunge. Think of it as an investment in your future. Take Your Time Miracles don’t happen in the real world so don’t expect that they will happen in the online world either. A one-month membership isn’t generally enough time to really experiment with all an online dating service offers. It’s going to take you a few days just to get everything set up to the point that you are happy. You are going to need time to develop a relationship just as you would under traditional dating circumstances. Be Honest Honesty really is the best policy, and so that you don’t waste anyone’s time, be especially honest about the type of relationship you seek. In addition, you’ve got to put a concentrated effort into getting what you want. Your ideal relationship isn’t going to happen without your assistance. Write a Powerful Profile Header It is the best way you have of getting noticed. In the world of online dating, you are one small fish swimming among a sea of thousands of other fish. It takes creativity to get noticed so don’t be afraid to try something new. Select the Right Photographanna Your photo will be looked at even before any of the words you have written about yourself. If you are serious about online dating, consider hiring a professional photographer to capture a few good images on just you images that will also be current! Keep the Conversation Light Always put on a happy face when you are communicating with someone you’ve connected with online. You’ve got to learn how to flirt without the use of your body language. Learn how to make your words evoke laughter. Build up the parts of your life that are interesting. Use the wink emoticon to break the ice. Use IM & the Phone When you’re ready to take an online relationship further, chatting in real time and even talking on the phone will really become important. If you remember the rules of safety, you don’t have to be afraid to venture out of the safe environment of sending and replying to email. Don’t Divulge Personal Information Always play it safe because until you meet in person a few times, it’s not possible to really know what the person on the other side of your correspondence is really up to. When you correspond, use generalities, not specifics. For example, you might state your occupation, but do not give the name of the company you work for, the branch location or other identifying information and never give out your last name, address, even the town in which you live. It’s just not necessary, especially early on.

 

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How to Prepare for Online Dating

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Fabulous great datesYou’ve been thinking about joining an online dating website but something is keeping you from pushing that JOIN button. Maybe you haven’t pushed that button yet because you haven’t prepared yourself. If so, then sit back and take a moment to see where you’re at with the whole concept of online dating. Dating, whether online or by traditional methods, is a huge step for many people, not just for those who are shy. Some people have never dated before. Others who are newly single may not have been part of the dating scene for many years. Others have had one bad experience after another and are trying to deal with issues of self-doubt or self-worth. Whether or not you see yourself in any of these examples, it’s important that you have an idea of what you want to get out of online dating. Knowing these answers will help you write a more effective profile and when your profile reflects your wants and needs, you won’t waste time on others who are looking for something entirely different. Are You Ready to Date Online? That’s the very first question you need to answer. If your heart and your head aren’t in this, then don’t start yet. You’ll waste your time as well as that of other members. And if the online dating site costs money to join, you’ll waste your money, too. Maybe you aren’t ready to ‘date’ but you are ready for companionship. That’s an important realization because you will likely find others online who are seeking companionship, too. The interesting thing about companionship, however, is that people differ in their definition of companionship. Dates with no strings attached and even casual one-night-stands are both definitions of ‘companionship’. So if you’re looking for a shoulder to cry on or someone to play Bingo with, make sure your intentions are clear. What Qualities Are You Seeking? Besides a particular eye and hair color, think about the qualities you are looking for in a mate. Here it’s important to think about more than physical attributes. Is your perfect soul mate someone who skis or surfs or who loves to putter in the garden? Can the person be recently divorced or widowed, or would you prefer someone new to the game of love? Is there a limit as to how old of a person you’re willing to date or how young for that matter? Should a mate share similar interests or will someone with differing interests better suit your needs? What are Your Online Dating Goals? Finally, ask yourself about your desired end results of your efforts. Are you looking for a long-term commitment that could ultimately lead to marriage? Do you seek friendship? Will a long-distance relationship be acceptable? Even though you answer all of the above questions, it doesn’t mean that your wants can’t change as you make your way through the online dating scene. These answers just give you a starting point. After all, your ultimate destination really is all about the journey!

 

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How to Fail at Online Dating

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingBeing Too Shy Many people think that online dating is a wonderful way for people who are shy to date. Well guess what? Being shy online will lead to just as many failed attempts at dating as it does in the offline world. If you don’t want to fail at online dating, you’ve got to come out of your shell. Being Passive Rather Than Active This is different than being shy. Passive daters are not fully committed to the idea of online dating. They approach it with half of their attention and most don’t commit to a paid membership which puts everyone at a disadvantage. Regardless of the reason for your passivity, whether you’re indecisive, fear rejection or are just too lazy, failing at online dating will be a blow to your ego. Cutting & Pasting Your Replies Some people will see through this masked attempt at originality. This type of correspondence is impersonal and if it’s all you’ve got time for, then perhaps you don’t really have enough time for dating. If you do this because you’re not good with words, then read how others respond to your messages and use these as guides. Nobody likes a form letter, especially when they’re looking for romance. Sounding Negative or Arrogant No one wants to talk to someone who is a downer or just the opposite, someone who cannot stop talking about him/herself. Keep your negative experiences to yourself. You’re starting anew and there is no need to drag your past into your future. And a successful relationship is a two-way relationship. If you do all the talking, it won’t ever develop into anything more than a one-way dead end. Making Overt or Borderline Sexually Harassing Comments Asking questions that are too personal or offering up blunt descriptions of what you think is an almost guaranteed way to scare off your prospective dates. Plus doing so could put your membership in jeopardy. Lying About Your Relationship Status You’ll get away with this type of lie for some period, but ultimately, always, this type of lie will come back to bite you and it will hurt either you or the person you’re involved with. Lying About Your Real Looks It’s tempting to use photo enhancement tools to make your photo more alluring. Plenty of online daters do this. Or they post a photo that is 10 or so years old. Whether your photo isn’t an accurate representation, or whether the words you use to describe your physical appearance are exaggerated, lying about your looks is another reason people fail at online dating. Corresponding Only with the ‘Hotties’ You’ve got just as much chance getting hooked up with the person behind the stunning image as you do if you saw that person at a trendy nightclub slim to none. That person will be bombarded with email and the chances of finding yours AND finding yours interesting are slim. Get back to reality or online dating will never work for you!

 

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How Online Dating Works

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Playing the NumbersYou’ve heard people talking about it. You’ve probably even seen advertisements for it on television. But for some reason, you haven’t yet given online dating a try. Perhaps you’re a bit nervous. Perhaps you don’t know a lot about computers and the Internet. Perhaps you’ll think less of yourself if you try and find companionship using technology rather than your personality. These concerns are understandable, but when you consider that millions of men and women are doing it every day, you’ve got to think that maybe online dating isn’t so bad. The way online dating works is really simple. You first need a way to connect to the Internet, which most people today already have so that should not be an issue. Then using the Internet, you need to find a suitable online dating website. Don’t let the word suitable scare you off. As you’ll see once you get into online dating, there are lots of different dating sites that cater to different groups or lifestyles. You’ll find sites for seniors, Christians, homosexuals, plain old heterosexual, and plenty more. Most of the online dating sites are subscription-based, meaning that you’ll have to join before you’ll be able to participate. Most often, it will cost money to join, but on some online dating websites, membership is free. The process of joining usually doesn’t involve much more than agreeing to the online dating site’s terms and conditions and paying the fee, if applicable. Once you’re a member, the next thing you’ll need to do is create a profile and a header. Your profile is what other members are going to read and based on your profile, another person should be able to determine whether you sound like someone worth pursuing. An effective profile not only describes you, it also talks about the qualities you’re looking for in someone else. Make it unique and be sure to proofread it before posting so you’re certain that what it says is really what you want to say. If the site allows members to attach photos to profiles, you’ll have to decide if this is something you’ll want to do. If so, just follow the instructions to attach it to your profile. Once your profile is posted, you can sit back and wait for others to start corresponding or you can start checking out other members’ profiles. If you find someone who sounds interesting, you can initiate the conversation. Besides corresponding via email and the ability to sort/delete your messages, online dating sites usually offer other activities you can participate in. Some sites offer live (typed) conversations via a site’s message board, and some sites host special events. Check both out and see whether those are activities you want to participate in. Online dating websites offer two really nice features. First, most are open around the clock so you can ‘date’ when it’s convenient for you. And second, new members join all the time so there will always be someone new to check out!

 

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