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I’m 46 and there’s nothing that you’re going through with your breakup that I didn’t experience.  None of my relationships or marriage lasted more than 2 years. I broke up with a few of my boyfriends and divorced my 2 ex husbands.  Years later, I was enlightened and figured out how to have a lasting relationship.  If I had the knowledge and experience then that I have now, I could have saved the relationship with one of my boyfriends that I really loved, and I could have saved both of my marriages.  Of course, I wouldn’t have a second marriage if I had saved the first one. 

I want to give you the most important thing, the knowledge of how to get your relationship back on track.  If it doesn’t work, you need to get rid of him immediately.  99% of the time it works.

1. Leave him alone, and I mean LEAVE HIM ALONE or he’s going to label you a bitch forever.   

• When you have just broken up and want to save the relationship, shut up. You’re angry and only going to make things worse.  It will give him time to think about why he fell for you in the first place and how wonderful your time was together.  Plus, it will give you both time to cool down after being hurt and angry. 

2.  Steps to recover from the breakup and return to a healthy state of mind.  It is very important that you do these steps in order. 

• Step #1:  Think only about yourself and activities you like to do without your boyfriend.  Do these as often as possible.  They could be things like spending time with your best girlfriend, going for a run, getting your nails done or painting.  If you can’t enjoy anything right now, do something to invest in yourself.  You can invest in your appearance by working out or getting your hair done, and you can invest in your mind by taking classes or reading books.

• Step #2:  Learn and understand what you need to change about yourself that will help you get your boyfriend back and make him love you more than ever. 

a.       You have to understand that your boyfriend is not you, and he has different opinions.  When he first met you, he was on his best behavior.  Chris Rock calls this ‘representative time.’ It always surprises us when our boyfriends get different with time.  It’s not bad that he was trying to please you at first, but you need to love him for who he is. Now that you know the real him, you have two choices:  accept him for who he is or get out. 

2. Have your own life.  Do NOT have your life revolve around him.  Accept that he has his own life, and then negotiate your life together.  Sharing your two lives together is the key to not controlling each other’s lives. 

3.  Return his call or call him.

• If he calls you before you have gotten back into a healthy state of mind, do NOT speak with him.  You’ll make him change his mind and think that calling you was a mistake.  He’ll never do it again. 
• Only when he’s ready, call him.  Make sure that he has heard that you’re different by calling his friends. When you call his friends, you want to ask how he’s doing.  Then say, “By the way, I’m doing great.  I feel like I really screwed up in our relationship…I think he’s a great guy…I just wanted to make sure he’s happy.” If you can’t call any of his friends, send him an email or Facebook message. 
• When the time is right, go on a date.  For the first 3 dates, don’t say anything negative or talk about the past relationship.  Talk about the new things you’re doing with your life.  Stay positive!
• After 3 dates, you need to show your man that you have new communication skills.  You need to tell him your needs and respect his needs.  This is the biggest secret of a good relationship. 

When I ran my previous dating service, I noticed that only about 3% of women could make men go crazy about them. The funny thing was that they weren’t the prettiest girls in my dating service. In fact, they were only a little above average. I studied over 100 women who were like this, and I looked at every date they went on. If you want any man to be crazy about you and commit to you in a short period of time, here are a few of the first steps you need to take.

Don’t turn your dates into therapy sessions. No man wants to be your psychologist. You have to show him that you’re emotionally stable. Men love confident women and need to have “motherly” emotional support, and he’ll feel that you had value to his manliness. You have to do this with skill so that he thinks he came up with it.

Have your own life! When a guy falls in love with you, he will want to spend every day with you. Be careful! Don’t make the mistake of sacrificing your friends. Make sure you have your own lives. Spend time with your friends, and let him spend time with his. Don’t start spending all of your time with someone else. No matter how much you want to, don’t spend every spend second with your boyfriend. You’ll regret it later.

Don’t call or text him incessantly. Make him always pursue you, but you always should be available to return his calls or texts. Sound excited to hear from him. For example say, “I am SOOO happy to hear from you!” Your texts should be shorter than his. Guys don’t like girls who seem desperate. You have to show that you’re interested while not seeming too eager. It’s tricky.

Book time for yourself. Tell him that you are going away for a day to be by yourself or spending time with your friends. Make sure that he understands that you have a life that doesn’t involve him. When you spend time without him, make sure you send him small texts or make short calls to say that you miss him.

Let him know that you think about him. Always talk about what a good time you had with him and how fabulous he was at kissing or sex. Guys have big egos, and you should build him up. Be careful not to overdo it.

Don’t be his maid, but show that you care especially in front of his friends. You should be especially nice and hospitable when his friends are over. It will embarrass your guy if you ask him to do stuff for you in front of his friends. He should also be especially nice to you in front of your friends.

These are the basics that you need to know and follow, but if you want to make sure that the guy you want is automatically obsessed with you, you need to know more secrets. Click here to find out how!

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Studies suggest that women look more favorably at men who have a healthy waist to hip ratio. In other words, women assume that men who are fit and healthy have better personal qualities, like more money or better personalities. This of course happens on a subconscious level, and it probably is the result of years of evolution.

When our ancestors chose mates, they looked for a partner who was healthy so they could have healthy offspring. Even today, people who look healthy have an easier time getting dates. Women are attracted to men who are physically fit because millennia ago, a fit man would be a better hunter and provide for his family well.

In a study done by Devendra Singh at the University of Texas, it was found that women were most attracted to men who were of a healthy weight (neither overweight nor underweight). The women ranked illustrations of men with various waist to hip ratios, meaning that they rated illustrations of men who were identical except for their weight. Not only did the women find the men who were of a healthy weight to be more attractive, but they also assigned more positive qualities to illustrations of them, like intelligence and would be a caring father.

Why should you care?

If you’re not in shape, you might be lessening your chances of getting dates. There are people out there who like all body types, but the majority of women prefer someone who looks healthy. You don’t have to get a body like Arnold, but you should strive to be at a healthy weight. This isn’t a good idea just to get girls, it’s also good for you! You can improve your health and get more dates by hitting the gym.

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Money is one of the biggest issues that couples fight over. This probably doesn’t surprise you. I noticed that many couples didn’t fight over money just because they didn’t have it, but they fought over it because they thought it wasn’t divided fairly. One couple complained of not having enough money for the necessities like food and rent. The guy went out and bought a $70 pair of shoes, and the woman was understandably upset…until he gave her permission to buy a new, expensive purse. However, this was just a temporary fix. The initial problem of them not being able to pay rent went unsolved.

Often, even couples who were well off financially had arguments over money. These people could easily afford the necessities, but often one person feels that he or she is more entitled to the money than the other person. Sometimes, the man is the main bread winner and thinks that he should have access to more of the funds because the money came from his paycheck. The caretaker in turn thinks that she’s entitled to more money because of the work she puts into the household. She cleans, takes care of the kids (a BIG job) and does the day-to-day things that make the household function.

Other times, one partner objectively spends way too much money on things he or she doesn’t need and gets the couple into debt. This can create really big problems because it can cause a lot of anger and resentment. Plus, being in debt causes a lot of stress, and stress is not good in general. A shopping addiction is a much harder problem to address than not be organized enough in your finances.

• How to fix it

First, pool all of the money you both make. From the pool, take out the money for the things both of you need and use, like rent, electricity, cable, groceries, etc. If doable, put some in savings, and then divide the rest evenly among yourselves. You can choose to save a portion of your cut of the money if you want to buy something big, or you can spend it on whatever you want. This way it is fair to both people, and you won’t feel compelled to nag your partner about his or her new purchase. It is crucial that you both stick to the plan. This plan will not help you if you spend all of your personal money immediately and then either beg your partner for more money or take money that was set aside for something else, like rent or savings.

However, if you or your partner has a shopping addiction and cannot stop shopping excessively, you need to seek outside help. It would be a good idea to hire a financial planner or a therapist if you or your partner still can’t stick to a budget.

If you still have a hard time sticking to the budget because you put more than allotted on your credit card, you need to make things stricter. Calculate how much money will go towards each thing (rent, bills, savings, personal money), and put each amount in a jar in cash. Only use the money in the jars. This way, you’ll see how much you have left.

If you’re organized and communicate well, you shouldn’t argue about money. Avoid this huge problem, and your relationship will go a LOT smoother. Being in a relationship can be stressful enough, and it will do you a world of good to not fight over the #1 stressor—money.

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All of the daters that I have met can be divided into two categories: methodical and emotional. Methodical people go about dating in a logical, organized way. First, they think of what they want in a partner, and then they look for it. An emotional person will follow their heart and then look for what their heart tells them.

The methodical people make a list of things that are important to them in a partner, and they can’t think of having chemistry with a person who does not meet their strict criteria. When they go on a date, they don’t let their feelings find out if there’s chemistry with the other person. If they see right away that the list of things are not met, they have zero interest. When they don’t give people a chance, they don’t have an opportunity to find out if there’s chemistry or not. Usually their expectations are too high. If this sounds like you, my recommendation is to soften your list of expectations and open your heart to see if you have chemistry for a person you’re going to meet. At the end of the day, chemistry is the most important part of a long term relationship.

The emotional people go on a date and will either feel that they have chemistry for a person and they like everything about that person, or they have no chemistry and want nothing to do with their date. Then, they’ll make a list of reasons why they didn’t like that person. The problem with this type of person is that if they have 6 dates and they had no chemistry with any of them, they will usually give up dating before they find the person with the right chemistry. If this sounds like you, my recommendation is to keep dating and be patient. When they do find someone that they have strong chemistry with, they will make a list of reasons why this person is the best person in the world.

No matter if you’re methodical or emotional, you have to remember to keep dating until you find the one. When you find the right person, it doesn’t matter how. The only thing that matters is that you found them.

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 Whether you are male or female, it’s easy to see that dating women has become excruciatingly difficult in this day and age.  You might think that we as a society have evolved a great deal from Victorian times when families groomed their sons and daughters for arranged marriages.  However, much of this pressure still exists today.  We are told whom we should marry by TV and movies, by the peer pressure of friends, and by society in general.  By following other people’s advice, you are only cheating yourself out of the relationship that you want.  Let’s consider some other common mistakes made in dating women, by men, as well as a few mistakes made by women.  Men often times make the mistake of trying to act too perfect.  Because of nerves, and a mistaken sense of role playing, they may act overly nice, overly sentimental and a bit too “safe.”  Whereas they think they are being nice and respectable, they are actually eschewing their real “self.”  A man who is trying to impress a woman in this way is being a friend rather than a love interest. Women can fall into similar patterns.  A woman might believe that she is showing kindness and interest when she expresses her feelings to a man, or when she seeks out his company.  However, a man might see overly clingy behavior as an invasion of privacy.  When dating women, remember to always allow your love interest to keep her space.  The same rule applies for women dating men. Now you also have to be careful not to go to the other extreme.  Some men dating women have reasoned that they must be cocky and arrogant in order to seem attractive.  Women have similarly reasoned that they must act cold or uninterested to seem worth catching.  This is stupid behavior.  There are ways to keep things mysterious and fun without resorting to childish mind games.  When dating women, or dating men for that matter, you may feel compelled to unload your life’s story on this new person.  One part of keeping the relationship fun and interesting is to resist the urge to splurge.  Too much information too soon is sensory overload; it can scare a potential partner away.  Focus instead on having fun in courtship.  Find things in common and enjoy the moments you have together.  By learning the most common mistakes, you can learn the behavior to avoid.  Avoiding common dating errors will immediately elevate you to boyfriend or girlfriend potential.

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Aries are a very happy sign. Aries are very attractive and powerful, but they would never use their power to hurt anyone. Aries are born with good values, always opposed to unfairness. Even reaching the highest levels of power, Aries are peaceful and approachable. They have fabulous common sense and a sense of justice, which makes them humane and reasonable. Aries are conservative, wise, and always strictly adhere to the social hierarchy. They care too much about what the public thinks about them and they painfully respect opinions of important people. This last phrase can get in the way of their success. The best quality of Aries is their passion for life. It is a pleasure to work with Aries; they really know how to make other people in a good mood. In some scenarios, their passion for life can become too eager. Always remember that conservative Aries is only conservative from the outside. From the inside, they are adventurous and can be a rascal, but always classy and fun.

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Tough Dragon. If you don’t want to get burned, don’t piss them off. Bright personality. Every day is a holiday for them; they turn negative things into positive things, which can sometimes be annoying to others around them. Other people can see them as atypical. Can sometimes see life as a rainbow and not understood by others. In need of love; very emotional and sensual. They take risks too easily and are often unpredictable, surprising others around them. Has talent when it comes to relationships.

Best Matches/Common Marriages for Tough Dragon:

Horoscope: Pisces, Virgo, Taurus, Aquarias

Chinese Zodiac: Ox and Monkey (best), Dragon, Cat/Rabbit, Horse, Rat

*Horoscope/Zodiac of Anna Karimo*

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Creative Tiger. They are forever trying to find a balance between their thoughts and actions, having a problem to walk their talk, mostly at young age. They have a great combination of motivation and desire to accomplish something great. All business, but capable of great deeds. Remember, before you want to catch them; they are idealists and free souls – you might be lonely, even though they can be very social people. Cannot stand others and their own weaknesses, but is always willing to help. They believe in taking risks in order to get rewards. They are usually good writers and private people. 

Written by: Anna Karimo

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Since online dating is still new to a lot of people, many people who put their profiles on dating websites without considering a few things don’t get many results. Have you considered that even though you are meeting people through a computer you are still meeting them for the first time? While you think you’re saving the good stuff until you meet someone in person, that meeting might never happen if you fail to catch the right person’s attention with just your online profile.

You really have to think of it as a first impression, and a first meeting. So what do those people on the other end of the communication think of your profile when they first see it? What does your online profile say about your attitude, your personality and your needs?

Here are a few tips of things you might not have thought of as having importance.

*Does your online profile have grammatical errors, or look sloppy?

People reading a profile like this won’t necessarily think that you’re stupid or flunked out of school, but it can make them think you’re lazy or uninterested in presenting yourself to them.

*How often do you update your profile?

What if the first time you caught someone’s attention online, they weren’t ready to make contact with you, but decided to keep your profile bookmarked? What if every time they looked back at it, it was exactly the same? They would be bored, think you’re not interested, and move on to someone else. It’s important to keep your profile current. Even if over a few weeks there’s not much new to include in your profile, you can change your picture. It’s interesting to see the different kinds of responses you get to different pictures you put up.

*What pictures do you use?

Many times a single picture doesn’t capture who you are and what you look like. If people get to see a few different pictures, they can get a better idea of who you are.

But be deliberate in the pictures you select. Perhaps if you have five pictures on your profile, for instance, they should be different. People are dynamic characters; over the course of time, we go through different emotions. If in all your pictures you look serious and sad, people will start to think of you as a depressed person. And we all know a good attitude is always more attractive.

*Does your profile make people laugh or smile?

Reading through hundreds of people’s profiles online can be frustrating sometimes, especially when your time is valuable. If you can make someone’s time worth it, it makes a big difference. People will feel positive toward you.

Most importantly have fun online, and be deliberate in your actions so you can always be careful.

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