Archive for the ‘Dating Women’ Category
Friday, February 27th, 2009
Are your kids having a hard time warming up to your dating partner? Are they bluntly telling you that they dislike the person you’re dating? This can be due to a variety of factors including jealousy over your time they feel is taken away from them, anger towards anyone who may appear to be displacing their mom or dad, or your child’s perception that he or she is protecting you from any future hurt in your life. It helps to sit down individually with each child to explore the underlying feelings and their source. One suggestion that can be helpful is to have your date spend time alone with the child that dislikes him or her. They may actually get along much better in your absence. This is a common occurrence when the parent isn’t in the mix. They tend to work things out naturally, and you needn’t always assume the role of mediator. Are there certain qualities about your partner that you can see may be difficult for your child? For instance, is there a certain tone of voice your date may be using, or an offensive habit your date doesn’t realize he or she engages in? It could also be that your date doesn’t realize that they are being too critical or they continually interrupt others when they speak. If this is the case and it seems that the absence of this quality would enable your partner to experience personal growth, and you’re reasonable confident that your date is open to constructive dialog, it’s worth trying to discuss the subject. This has to be pointed out artfully and of course they may or not be motivated to make the commitment, and take the necessary steps, to change. If your kids have disliked everyone you’ve ever dated, this would tend to suggest that the issue isn’t about the specific person you are dating, but has more to do with the child’s fear that the other parent is systematically being “replaced”. Encourage your child to try to open up about their feelings. This isn’t always easy, especially during the teenage years. Share with your child a little about your insecurities about your own parents’ interaction and let them view you a bit as how you were as a kid and not just in your parenting role. Kids connect more when spoken to as an equal, where appropriate. Drawn on your own childhood experiences, and try to understand your child’s perspective, and provide the reassurance they need to feel comfortable enough to give your relationship a chance.
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Tags: children, commitment, dates, dating, dialog, dislike, insecurities, jealousy, kids, mediator, motivation, partner, reassurance, relationship
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Friday, February 27th, 2009
Humor enables newly introduced couples to relax and feel comfortable in nearly any situation, including dating . Poking fun at oneself is also a way to make your date feel at ease. An easy, healthy laugh at one’s own expense shows a dose of reality, and reveals that you are aware of your own fallibility. Conversely, constant jabs about oneself and/or habitual self-deprecating tends to indicate low self-esteem. Further, biting and sarcastic humor can be negative on a date and reveal a certain bitterness or anger. This is quite different than a natural chuckle and use of humor. When out on a date, it’s strongly advised that you also stay away from “bash fests” about one’s ex, pointing out all their flaws and limitations. Usually one isn’t distant enough from an ex-spouse or partner to be able to do this without a hidden agenda or re-expose unresolved hurt. This also applies to jokes about ex-in-laws, as often problems with in-laws were mitigating factors in a relationship ending. Extremes of mocking another or oneself indicate unresolved issues that need to be addressed. When someone makes a joke about themselves, they don’t seem to be full of self-importance or carrying a big ego. Instead, they seem like a real human being. We tend to lower our guard when humor is used because we don’t have to be “performing “all the time. This in turn allows us to laugh at ourselves and reveal something personal to another that may show a flaw or weak spot as well. In short, interspersing jokes and humorous remarks organically into a conversation enliven it and ultimately lead to greater closeness.
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Tags: blind-dates, communication, conversation, dates, dating, focus, humerous, humor, joke, joking, laugh, meeting, men, self-esteem
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Friday, February 27th, 2009
When you’re on a blind date, don’t lie. Strive to always be yourself. You needn’t pretend to be someone that you aren’t. After all, isn’t part of the dating quest to find someone who likes, and eventually loves you for YOU? Dishonesty will only lead to the date being a disaster for both of you. If you are out on a date, and you sense that the other person isn’t being truthful, you know that ultimately you can’t trust them, and you aren’t going to want to continue the date, much less go out on another date with them.
Don’t bore your date with too many elaborate details about your past, unless they are very engaging, funny, or otherwise interesting details. You will be able to gage your date’s interest by any number of visual or auditory clues, most notably they smile and ask for you to elaborate! Talk a little about yourself but don’t go into too much detail, especially if you are sensing that the other person isn’t interested.
Don’t bogart the conversation. Try to listen carefully as well. Don’t make it seem like you only want to hear yourself talk. If you appear to be overly self-centered, your date is not likely is to want to take you out on a date again, because all you do is talk about yourself.
Don’t bring up the past or reference your last relationship. This might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject!
Don’t be too opinioned right away. You don’t know how your date feels about various subjects, so if you start to talk about a potentially controversial subject, you might inadvertently offend or hurt your date by saying something negative about a cause they support. Test the waters before you start to talk about subjects such as politics or current events. Get a feel for what they believe, and proceed with tact. Remember to always be kind!
In short, it’s important to remember that when you’re on a blind date, you don’t want to make the other person feel uncomfortable in any way. No matter what, make sure that you aren’t doing or saying things that might lead your date to misjudge who you are, or take you seriously about something that you don’t want to appear to feel seriously about. Don’t make a big deal out of the little things. In other words, keep the conversation light and breezy!
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Tags: beliefs, blind-date, dates, dating, dishonesty, engaging, fun, funny, honest, interests, men, relationship, values, woman
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Sunday, February 22nd, 2009
You’ve probably thought about going on a
blind date for a while now. When you go on a blind date, you are going to be meeting someone that you have never seen before, and that you probably won’t know much about. You might be concerned that the date isn’t going to go well, and you might feel like it is not going to be something that you ever want to do again.
However, sometimes a blind date goes well. It might be that you hit it off with the person you have been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone that your friends thought would be a good match for you. You friends tend to know you best, so if they think a person is someone you’d like, there is a good chance that this will be true. Sometimes, if you meet someone online or through a personal ad, you might also get lucky and end up falling for that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options for when this happens. If a blind date is going very well, you might want to tell the person that you are having a good time. This honest approach lets them see that you are really enjoying yourself, and you might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for another date. If a blind date goes well, but no one has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it is okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to do something again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes, if that’s what you want to do. Blind dates can indeed lead to something that lasts long-term, so you shouldn’t avoid going out on such dates just because you don’t know the person. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance of something more happening when you go on a blind date.
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Tags: blind-date, commitment, communication, connection, internet, match, meeting, online, women
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Friday, April 18th, 2008
When out on a date, it’s strongly advised that you also stay away from “bash fests” about your ex, pointing out all their flaws and limitations. Talking about your ex might seem like a convenient topic, but it isn’t appropriated for your first date, but you’re usually not distant enough from an ex-spouse or partner to be able to do this without a hidden agenda or re-expose unresolved hurt. This is not something that is healthy for either of you to want to discuss on a blind date. Remember, you’re still dating because your former romantic interests didn’t work out. Additionally, if your date appears to be navigating the conversation toward a former relationship, be confident about gently nudging them toward a more promising subject! You might be surprised at how easy it is to offend someone simply by talking about a person you used to know or a person you used to date. It is also easy to complain about your ex – people who you have dated that haven’t turned out to be the best thing for you are certainly easy to bring up in conversation because, let’s face it, everyone has terrible “ex” stories. But try to keep the conversation pointed in the right, i.e. POSITIVE direction, and away from your exes. It might seem hard at times to keep things going forward and not look back, but if you get into a relationship with someone, you’ll be glad that you did. It is always best to look forward.
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Tags: blind-date, communication, concerns, dates, dating, discretion, exes, relationship, romantic
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Saturday, October 14th, 2006
You’ve heard people talking about it. You’ve probably even seen advertisements for it on television. But for some reason, you haven’t yet given online dating a try. Perhaps you’re a bit nervous. Perhaps you don’t know a lot about computers and the Internet. Perhaps you’ll think less of yourself if you try and find companionship using technology rather than your personality. These concerns are understandable, but when you consider that millions of men and women are doing it every day, you’ve got to think that maybe online dating isn’t so bad.
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Tags: blind-date, companionship, concerns, dates, dating, Love, match, meeting, nervous, relationship, romantic, technology, women
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Saturday, May 27th, 2006
Always be yourself on a date. Lying, or any form of deception, is not a good idea when it comes to dates. It’s important to set a precedent of being honest with your dates, and to be truthful when they ask you questions. You don’t want to portray yourself in a way that is inaccurate, so you should always, always be truthful about who you are, how you feel, and what you believe. It’s simply EASIER to be yourself! Be prepared to share a little bit about yourself on the date. You may not want to go into too much detail initially, but share with your date a bit about yourself so they can begin to get to know you. Share a little of your personal history, a little about your family, a little about what you do, touch on things that you believe in, and what you see for yourself in the future. Share what you feel comfortable speaking about, without boring them by talking too much about yourself. Think of it as a whirlwind synopsis of who you are! The intent is to not only tantalize your date with tidbits of information, but to generate sufficient interest on their part so they can ask questions, which helps you gain insight into what aspect of your life they find of greater interest!
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Tags: comfortable, dates, dating, down-to-earth, honest, insight, match, men, trustworthy, truthful, women
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Sunday, September 25th, 2005
Sometimes a blind date goes well! It is indeed possible to hit it off with someone you’ve been set up with. This most often happens when you go out with someone your friends thought would be a good match for you. Your friends often know you best, so if they sense that someone they know may be a good match, there’s a good chance this will be true. You might also have the good fortune of meeting someone online or through a personal ad and end up falling with that person as well. So, what do you do when a blind date goes well? There are several options. You might want to be honest and simply tell your date that you are having a good time. This will allow your date to see that you are genuinely enjoying yourself. You might be surprised to hear that they are having a good time as well. If this is the case, both of you might feel comfortable asking for, and arranging, another date. If a blind date goes well, but neither of you has asked the other for a second date by the end of the night, you might want to ask if it’s okay if you call them sometime. If they say it is, then you should wait a couple of days before you call them and see if they’d like to get together again. If they call you, make sure that you say yes! Blind dates can indeed lead to something that is going to last a while, so you shouldn’t keep yourself from going out on dates just because you don’t know the person at all. If you keep your mind open to new possibilities, you might be surprised at what you find out. It could just be the best thing to ever happen to your dating life. There is always a chance something more happening when you go on a blind date!
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Tags: blind-date, connection, conversation, dates, dating, long-lasting, Love, match, meeting, relationship
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