Archive for the ‘Dating Women’ Category

Are You a Quality Date?

Monday, October 12th, 2009

Dating skillsHave you ever been on the receiving end of harsh date criticism?  Or worse yet, have you been blown off by someone you really liked?  Your friends all said, “He’s a loser!”  You’re better without him.”  That may be true and you could accept that if you wanted to.  However, is it possible that you yourself have fallen short of being the “perfect date”?  This is criticism you can choose to disregard or accept, depending how much desire you have to better yourself.  Let’s discuss some of the most common reasons why women are “bad dates.”

 

1. Sheila doesn’t dress up or show up on time. 

 

This may be a rarity in modern dating, but it’s still a possible romance killer.  A woman that doesn’t bother to dress up may be a slight disappointment for her date.  In addition, a woman that is very late for the agreed appointment can likewise be seen as inconsiderate.

 

2. Alice only talks about herself.

 

Men do like when the woman is funny, interesting and congenial in conversation.  However, if she never listens and drones on about herself only, then the man may lose interest quickly. 

 

3. Mandy brings other dates to dinner.

 

Not literally of course, but to the guys she meets, she might as well be bringing along her entire list of ex-boyfriends to the table because it’s all she ever talks about!  Bringing your baggage from previous relationships to your first date is a very bad move.

 

4. Krystal likes to play games.

 

Krystal enjoys giving the cold shoulder and playing hard to get.  Unfortunately, she plays herself right out of a good relationship with her distant and occasionally rude behavior.

 

5. Jennifer doesn’t know anything about how chemistry works.

 

Jennifer is kind enough on the first date, and she and her potential boyfriend seem to have fun.  However, the more dates they go on, the less they have to talk about.  Could it be that Jennifer is not giving him any encouraging signals to move the relationship forward? 

 

6. Heather gets very nervous on a date.

 

Heather is naturally anxious when it comes to dating and tends to either clam up or put her foot in her mouth on multiple occasions.  Sadly, her behavior can intimidate men and scare them away from calling back. 

 

We all make mistakes and there’s no reason to be ashamed of such.  However, when you refuse to consider where you may have went wrong during your couple of dates, you may be denying yourself a chance for improvement. 

 

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What Attracts a Man to a Woman?

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Great RelationshipWhen a man loves a woman…we all know the song.  However, do we really appreciate the role of instinct in the equation?  What does attract a man to a woman?  Isn’t the beautiful female form all it takes to attract a man’s attention?  Not necessarily.  Though many men look, not all of them touch—or even make an effort to start a conversation.  Men are hunters, but they only seem to “hunt” when the time is right.  Some speculate this could be related to science. 

 

For example, the European Journal of Neuroscience released a study on 41 male volunteers who had their brains scanned.  The study revealed that warmer or more sentimental men tend to have more brain tissue in the outer strip of the brain right above the eyes.  These are the same zones that allow people to enjoy other “romantic” activities like sex and chocolate.  You must also remember that men are visual creatures.  Men are known to get hormonal surges whenever they see an image of an alive, vibrant and healthy woman.  Therefore, it’s not a choice.  Men will feel attracted to whatever visually captures them.  A beautiful image will release these romantic chemicals in their brains.

 

Another interesting fact: did you know that women actually send sexual body language five times more than the average man?  This doesn’t necessarily mean that women are more sexual than men; it simply means that women’s behavior is important for getting positive feedback and reaction from the male species. 

 

Visual communication is important and it’s not solely related to the “good looks” or physical shape of a woman.  Sometimes a little positive body language goes a long way, towards stealing a man’s attention and his heart.  You can learn these body language techniques and drastically improve the quality of man you attract!

 

 

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Men Hunt for love, Women Reject if its not a relationship

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Attracting women everywhere 1Within that simple title there is a very provocative discussion.  We all know the theory that men are hunters.  Men naturally seek out women because they are the “hunter” in evolutionary theory, and for the most part, women don’t mind this.  Men are visually based beings and so will respond emotionally and romantically to what they find visually appealing. If that’s the case, then why do so many women have problems meeting men?

 

Because the visual side of a man looks for more than just a pretty face and attractive figure.  In order to begin the hunt, he has to feel welcomed; he has to get those positive vibes from the woman he likes.  He gets these feelings not from emotion or intuition, but from visual stimuli.  The best stimuli?  Positive body language.  A woman must strategically use encouraging body language in order to attract male hunters her way.  She doesn’t have to obvious or shameless about it; the most subtle gestures can go a long way in grabbing attention.

 

Another point to consider is that men, even the most charming and confident, are easily put off by rejection.  The thought of rejection—the fear of it—can control a man’s life.  If they do not immediately sense positive body language, then they may hold back from introducing themselves to an otherwise beautiful woman. 

 

Men tend to assess and scan the environment around them.  In fact, it’s customary for the average man to show attention to the woman who is most likely to be receptive to his advances.  A woman that looks uptight, uncomfortable or displeased will usually not merit the attention of the average man.  She may still get approached, as there are men who thrive on challenges, but for the average man she will appear to be an “untouchable.”

 

In the end, it doesn’t matter how you look—it’s your level of approachability!

 

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Love at First Sight—The First Crucial Moments

Friday, October 9th, 2009

Dating and Events1Much of your future relationship with a man will be determined in the first few minutes of your meeting.  You will immediately deduce (whether consciously or subconsciously) if he’s confident in himself, happy and mentally well adjusted.  You can also tell a lot about a man from the gestures and physical body language he uses when approaching you.  For instance, does he keep a distance from you, perhaps indicating a lack of self-confidence?  Does he come in too close, making you feel uncomfortable or like he’s invading your personal space?

 

After the physical part of first impressions comes the first conversation.  Usually the man leads, and in most cases, he has already been thinking of a clever “pickup line.”  Men know that first impressions last and so put a lot of thought into their opening lines.  A man may also believe that other people are looking at him as he tries to approach a woman, so he may have to summon up the courage to go through with this “monumental” event.

 

What he says next will undoubtedly tell a lot about that person.  Is he trying to come across as intelligent and does it succeed?  Does he have the tendency to rely on humor so that the situation is not so serious (and so the rejection isn’t so awkward)?  Then again, there’s always that special guy that works up the nerve to approach you just so he can say something shocking or inappropriate, indicating he’s probably just after sex.  (Always one of those, right?)

 

What follows the pickup line is the introduction, where he introduces himself and awaits a reaction.  For better results in your love life, try to be friendly and accommodating (unless you really dislike him).  Repeat his name if he gives it to you, or if necessary, you can ask his name and share yours.  (Some guys are shy enough to neglect this important step). 

 

All in all, remember that the introduction is one of the most defining moments of a relationship.  Be kind, but be smart. 

 

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Creating an Online Dating Profile

Friday, April 17th, 2009

How to talk about yourself on a date-1To join an online dating service, you need to create a member profile which helps you to describe yourself as to who you are, what you are and what are you looking for? Although you may answer every question as you wish to but before that I would like you to know that there would be many profiles which would have common content. Do you wish to be one of those who share same content on their profile or you want to look different? But of course, you would want to stand out of the crowd. To be different from others in creating an eye catching dating profile you should take care of few things which I am going to mention. Here you go…

The first thing which I would like to mention is take you time building a dating profile. You have to present yourself to the best possibility for a match so be patient and take time building your profile.

Create a unique headline specifying your most passionate thing and it will certainly help you out finding someone sharing the same thing and may be you turn out more compatible with that person.

Look Different: A Profile allows you to demonstrate yourself in front of the world, so you need to be very careful about your answers to some common questions. The idea is to read about 10 to 15 profiles and look for what they all have in common and now you know where to make a difference to look different.

Adding a Photo: Building a relation may not entirely depend on the photo but yes, a photo plays a major role in it. Add a latest photo which is quiet clear and gives a professional look. But that doesn’t mean that you have to take a headshot. You can add any of your photos doing anything you love to, but please do check out for no common results again.

Easy Read Profile: You might be into online dating from a long time back, able to understand the terms like ‘SWF ISO SM’ (Single White Female In Search Of Single Male), but anyone who goes through your profile may not necessarily be knowing these terms, specially the new users, so avoid using such terms in your profile making it easy to read for all. Mostly people do not stay on a profile for long and if you use such terms, they may slip off a little earlier than normal.

Be Honest about yourself: This is a point which is ought to be remembered while writing about yourself. You should know one thing, sooner or later a person will come to know about you, so there’s no point lying at this point. Be what you are, write the truth, no matters if you are divorced, you have kids etc. Just be what you are and no need to hide. When a relation develops, there’s a bonding because of the trust and when small things come up later on the other person starts loosing the trust in you and your relation may end up nowhere, so it’s always better to say the truth no matters how hard it can be.

Keep Your Profile Simple: You are provided with a space to tell about yourself but that doesn’t mean that you have to write a full story mentioning all about you let the people imagine you from your profile. Create your profile in such a way that a person could read it in a minute or two or it can become a bit boring for some.

Spelling and Grammar: Always check your spelling and grammar twice before you post a profile. This is a common mistake made by most of the people. The spelling and grammar mistakes in your profile put up a question about your smartness. Smart people do not make such mistakes. You can also make someone read your profile before you post it, just to ensure about the grammatical errors.

Don’t Write All About you: No questions, this profile is to mention about you and who else?? I just want to convey that, mention you finer points in such a way that your profile doesn’t seems like a boasting thing, just try and be humble and remember to leave a space to mention about the kind of person you are looking for.

Mentioning About The Partner: Always mention specifically what you want your ideal partner to be like, mention a few respectful and realistic lines describing your partner which will in return help you find a compatible partner easily.

Look Alive: No one will ever want to be in relation with the person who is dull, so be passionate about your life, your hobbies. Look full of life!!

Make Changes: You can make changes to your profile anytime you want to, so it’s not necessary to worry about the perfection in the very first time, but you can and you should make the desired changes after a short span of time.

 

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Joining an Online Dating Website: Take Care Tips

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009

Dating service scam-1Online Dating is an industry which is growing at an incredible rate in the world of today. This industry consists of millions of dating profiles and the rate of addition of new profiles is remarkably around as many as a minimum of a many thousands per day, a huge thing!! There are many websites which are offering you Dating Services, some of which may charge you a few bucks monthly or yearly etc. Whereas, there are many websites which offer you free Dating Services. You can choose either a paid service or a free service, it’s up to you. To have a successful online dating you need to choose the service carefully. Choosing a Dating Service is quiet easy, you should know about the following things which will lead you to the success: –

You should know that there are a many dating services which aren’t reliable.  It’s always a good idea to check out for reviews more than one if possible, just to be sure that the sources are unbiased. If you do not follow the idea of checking reviews properly, you may land up joining a dating service with outdated or inactive member profiles, so be careful before joining and making any payments.

Few sites use a dishonest marketing technique, they would attract your attention by offering you to create a free member profile on their website, but sooner you will me mailed a message stating that you have a private message from so & so opposite sex member, in spite of the fact that you may not have created your profile in detail or added your picture to your profile you receive a private message. Now, to read a private message you need to be a paid user and they (dating service providers) will ask you to make a payment to read the message. DO NOT MAKE ANY PAYMENT TO SUCH SITES. It’s no use. It is only a marketing technique and there is no such member profile that messaged you. Even if you try, you will find no response from that member in spite of making the payment on the same day. Not all the sites are dishonest, but a few sites use this tactic.

Now, after a good search you know a good & genuine dating service. Now you need to create a profile in that dating service. All done with choosing a dating service now?? NO. Here, I would like to advice you to check whether the dating service is offering you to create a profile by answering some pre written questions or customize your profile a bit. Now, this is important. Do not select a dating service which is offering you to create a profile on above mentioned measure; this will just add a limit to your description. Instead choose a dating service which allows you to create your profile as you want, defining no limits to how you want to display yourself in front of other member of the service.

 

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First Date: Your First Impression on her

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

First DateFirst date is a thing which always makes you think over again and again that what would be your first impression or how to give her a good impression on the very first meeting? The first impression is often said as the last impression, whereas in Dating, especially on the first date, the first impression matters a lot. The other person only notices your looks, attitude and behavior rather than going deep into your life on the very first date and your first impression plays an important part as to what kind of relation will develop or even if the relation will develop or not? So, here are few tips for you so that you know how to give the best impression as the first impression on your first date with her.

Look Good: May be you are not a handsome guy, but does that mean you can’t look good? Self grooming is really important. You need to do the following things before going to your first date: – bathing, smelling good, trimming away nose hair and ironing your shirt. I hope you think that the above mentioned tasks do not need much effort.

Have a Good  Sense of Humor: Women love the people who can make them laugh. By making her laugh you are making sure that she is having a good time and is enjoying being with you. She will surely remember her first date with you and will want to go out with you again as you left a good impression on her.

Be Yourself: Women sense fraud, so better you don’t lie anything. Be what you are and answer her questions honestly as you are at the stage of creating a base for your relationship and sooner or later all things come up clearly, so to avoid being called a liar. Be true. Don’t pretend to be what you are not, instead let her know you as who you are or what you are? This will certainly create a good impression on her.

Be a Good Listener: Women love to talk and they love to tell about themselves, so whenever she is talking to you, listen to her carefully, instead of thinking about what to ask next? By listening to her, you are showing her that you are interested in knowing about her which will make her comfortable talking to you and she will always love being with you. Remember, do not get involved in any controversial topics like politics etc,  instead you can choose the topics like hobbies, family, sports etc.

Maintain a Good Attitude: This is one of the most important tip or advice which I would like you to know. Your attitude matters a lot on your first date, it includes how you treat yourself, how you treat others and also how you make others treat you?

Be a Mystery: Women show a great interest towards something they can’t understand and they always want to learn about it more. So, being a mystery will attract her towards you and she would want to come out with you again and again. Now, be nice but avoid being too nice to be always available for her and she would be coming back for more.

Make Her Feel Special: Always do everything to make a woman feel special as women always want to feel special. Women always want to be respected and appreciated. Your making her feel special will definitely leave a good impression on her. You can make her feel special by doing small things like opening the door for her, offering her a chair before you are seated etc.

Enjoy Dating: Dating means to feel relaxed. Instead of being stressed out by just trying to make your date perfect, just be comfortable and enjoy. If you are not enjoying, certainly she would be able to tell and she also won’t enjoy the date and here you may make a bad impression on her.

 

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What Do You Want From A Girlfriend?

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

Attract men everywhere 1The first step to getting a great girlfriend is deciding exactly what kind of woman would be right for you. You don’t want to settle for a woman who isn’t someone you like being around for more than just a little while. The point of getting a girlfriend is to have someone to have more fun with. If you get into a relationship and end up miserable, you’re doing something wrong. So first, decide exactly what you want. That’s the only way you’ll stand a chance at getting it. How do you want to date? Do you want fun, casual, short-term relationships with several women at once? Would you rather have one girlfriend who you really have fun with and respect? Do you want to date a few women casually at first and see if you’d like to get more serious later? Who do you want to date? A friendly, down-to-earth girl-next-door? Someone outgoing and adventurous? An elegant and sophisticated woman? A quiet and reserved type who saves most of her attention for you? Or again, several different women so that you can see who you enjoy being around the most? What are you going to do together? Do you want someone to go with to all the local clubs? Would you rather have a girlfriend who sits on the sidelines and cheers for you, or one who will jump right in the game? How about a girlfriend who enjoys a sport or hobby you’ve never tried? It’s a good idea to start working this out now, before you meet her and before she announces that she’s bored with dinner and a movie every time you go out. Right now, you might think that physical attraction is all that a relationship requires, and you’d be right for the first date…maybe. But eventually, if you haven’t thought through what you want to give and receive in your relationship, your girlfriend will get on your nerves until you have to break it off. But if you start off your relationship right, you’ll be much more likely to get a great girlfriend who you’ll never want to leave. Remember that you have to have something to offer in a relationship, too. What will that be? There are a few things that women want that will surprise you, and others that will seem incredibly obvious. And then there are other things that you thought were important that turn out not to matter at all. So what’s fact and what’s fiction?

 

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Is Online Dating a Boon or a Bust?

Saturday, March 7th, 2009

Online DatingClick, Find Love.

Is this a new movie or a title of a book focusing in love on the Internet? Think You’ve got mail, Must love dogs and Napoleon Dynamite, all films geared towards finding love or partners online. Have we really lost the era of romanticism?

While it is undeniable that a large number of people have found its way to online dating, it is certainly not regarded as a last recourse for those who have had a challenging time looking for dates. In fact, online dating is just like putting up a personal ad in a magazine or newspaper, a popular method in the late 80’s and early 90’s although online dating is much faster and more convenient.

What you get with online dating is the same as the personal ads in print, with so much more benefits and options. It’s still a blind chase but at least you get to check on it everyday, like tracking down how many people viewed your profile, you get instant messages in a matter of seconds and responses to messages are instantaneous.

While some have thanked their lucky stars for online dating, some sees this as a curse, fit for the preying for online wolves. Admittedly, a lot of shady persons have used the cloak of anonymity of the Internet to mask their true intentions. Profiles are not completely honest, old photos are uploaded and some even have the audacity to ask for money.

There have even been reports of some people from different countries meet up, some women lured into sex in promise of a new comfortable life and probably marriage. But to the credit of online dating, there have also been a lot of success stories involving a happy marriage or union.

Another known problems are with some online dating sites that have padded their member list with “bait” profiles, putting up more members to show that they have a vast membership. This would let a potential member think that there is a lot of people he or she can meet on the site and their chances of meeting a person they could probably like to get to know would grow higher.

But even with those mentioned problems, the popularity of online dating is rising at the speed and strength of a careening freight train at top speed. More and more websites have mushroomed and more people are signing up, sometimes even to more than two online dating sites.

The grasp of online dating sites extends to people who find the “chase” exciting and thrilling, the mystique of meeting a complete stranger adds up to the excitement.

There are also a good number of online dating aficionados that are relatively shy and would only be able to effectively communicate with other people behind the monitor using the keyboard as their mouthpiece.

Be it either for a short- or long-term relationship, online dating sites have already proven its effectivity and reliability with a startling ratio of success stories.

In fact, in 2004, US residents alone have spent $469.5 million in online dating sites, covering the fees. Online dating is now regarded as the largest industry in the paid website content.

There are now more than a thousand online dating sites, growing at en estimate of 35 percent increase each year. Shares in the market though are dominated by a couple of large websites which includes league giants Yahoo with Yahoo Personals, American Singles and Match.com to name a few.

But online dating is not only for us Americans, although we do dominate the market. The online dating bug has also bitten Europe with increased memberships seen and more and more European online dating sites popping up.

With the trend in growth going sky high, it wouldn’t be a wonder that five to ten years from know, a great number of married couple would attribute their meeting to online dating.

But unlike a romantic movie, not all person that you meet online is a prince just waiting to ride his white horse or a damsel in distress in a high tower just waiting to drop her hair for you to climb and live happily ever after.

Get to know a person thoroughly first and if possible, get him or her to show herself or himself through a webcam, then gradually go to talking through phones. Take it slow before agreeing to personally meet each other.

Click, Find Love – It might as well be the start of your own love story.

 

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Spotting Online Dating Scams & Cheats

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Frustrated with datingThe real world as well as the virtual world is full of scam artists, liars, cheaters, stalkers, and plenty of other types of unsavory characters. Both worlds are also full of honest, reliable, trustworthy, hard-working individuals as well. One of the biggest challenges facing those participating in online dating is learning how to tell the difference. Fortunately there are ways to know when you are being scammed and there are things you can do to protect yourself from becoming a victim. Trust Your Instincts Women especially seem to be in-tune with their gut feelings and this actually is one of your best defenses. Pay attention to your instincts because more often than not, they are picking up on vibes you might not be noticing. When your instincts start screaming at you to cease communicating with someone, just do it. You can question your instincts later on, if you want. Or you can start working your next prospective love match. Inconsistent Stories, Vague Responses There is a good chance you are being lied to or scammed when the person cannot keep his or her facts straight. Learn how to listen to the words you read and you will learn how to identify inconsistencies. They usually appear in the basic information another offers such as profession, age, marital status, hobbies and interests, even appearance. When someone cannot keep these basic facts straight, that person likely is lying. Talk on the Phone For your own safety and protection, always arrange to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet in person anyone you have met online. You will get a genuine feel for the person on the other end by doing so. If this person turns out to be the smoothest talker you have ever encountered, that should be a red flag. Also, if the person cannot seem to arrange a convenient time to talk on the phone, this is a bad sign and you should consider ending this relationship. Asking for Money Anytime someone you are communicating with online asks you for money or for your banking or credit card information or any other thing having to do with your personal finances, you are being set up to be scammed. Contrary to what people think, even the brightest, most worldly individuals have fallen victim to this type of scam. Even if you are being given the saddest, most unfortunate or dire story about why the other person needs your financial assistance, it is most likely a lie. It is in your best interest to stop all communication immediately, and this person should be reported, even if doing so makes you feel uncomfortable. Keep Personal Information Personal The more personal information you give out during your online communications, the more you increase your chances of being victimized. Don’t divulge your hometown, name of employer, last name, phone number, real email address, home address, nothing. If another person keeps insisting on this type of information from you, it’s time to move on.

 

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