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I’m 46 and there’s nothing that you’re going through with your breakup that I didn’t experience.  None of my relationships or marriage lasted more than 2 years. I broke up with a few of my boyfriends and divorced my 2 ex husbands.  Years later, I was enlightened and figured out how to have a lasting relationship.  If I had the knowledge and experience then that I have now, I could have saved the relationship with one of my boyfriends that I really loved, and I could have saved both of my marriages.  Of course, I wouldn’t have a second marriage if I had saved the first one. 

I want to give you the most important thing, the knowledge of how to get your relationship back on track.  If it doesn’t work, you need to get rid of him immediately.  99% of the time it works.

1. Leave him alone, and I mean LEAVE HIM ALONE or he’s going to label you a bitch forever.   

• When you have just broken up and want to save the relationship, shut up. You’re angry and only going to make things worse.  It will give him time to think about why he fell for you in the first place and how wonderful your time was together.  Plus, it will give you both time to cool down after being hurt and angry. 

2.  Steps to recover from the breakup and return to a healthy state of mind.  It is very important that you do these steps in order. 

• Step #1:  Think only about yourself and activities you like to do without your boyfriend.  Do these as often as possible.  They could be things like spending time with your best girlfriend, going for a run, getting your nails done or painting.  If you can’t enjoy anything right now, do something to invest in yourself.  You can invest in your appearance by working out or getting your hair done, and you can invest in your mind by taking classes or reading books.

• Step #2:  Learn and understand what you need to change about yourself that will help you get your boyfriend back and make him love you more than ever. 

a.       You have to understand that your boyfriend is not you, and he has different opinions.  When he first met you, he was on his best behavior.  Chris Rock calls this ‘representative time.’ It always surprises us when our boyfriends get different with time.  It’s not bad that he was trying to please you at first, but you need to love him for who he is. Now that you know the real him, you have two choices:  accept him for who he is or get out. 

2. Have your own life.  Do NOT have your life revolve around him.  Accept that he has his own life, and then negotiate your life together.  Sharing your two lives together is the key to not controlling each other’s lives. 

3.  Return his call or call him.

• If he calls you before you have gotten back into a healthy state of mind, do NOT speak with him.  You’ll make him change his mind and think that calling you was a mistake.  He’ll never do it again. 
• Only when he’s ready, call him.  Make sure that he has heard that you’re different by calling his friends. When you call his friends, you want to ask how he’s doing.  Then say, “By the way, I’m doing great.  I feel like I really screwed up in our relationship…I think he’s a great guy…I just wanted to make sure he’s happy.” If you can’t call any of his friends, send him an email or Facebook message. 
• When the time is right, go on a date.  For the first 3 dates, don’t say anything negative or talk about the past relationship.  Talk about the new things you’re doing with your life.  Stay positive!
• After 3 dates, you need to show your man that you have new communication skills.  You need to tell him your needs and respect his needs.  This is the biggest secret of a good relationship. 

Ó 2009 Prepare LLC and Anna Karimo. All Rights Reserved.

When I ran my previous dating service, I noticed that only about 3% of women could make men go crazy about them. The funny thing was that they weren’t the prettiest girls in my dating service. In fact, they were only a little above average. I studied over 100 women who were like this, and I looked at every date they went on. If you want any man to be crazy about you and commit to you in a short period of time, here are a few of the first steps you need to take.

Don’t turn your dates into therapy sessions. No man wants to be your psychologist. You have to show him that you’re emotionally stable. Men love confident women and need to have “motherly” emotional support, and he’ll feel that you had value to his manliness. You have to do this with skill so that he thinks he came up with it.

Have your own life! When a guy falls in love with you, he will want to spend every day with you. Be careful! Don’t make the mistake of sacrificing your friends. Make sure you have your own lives. Spend time with your friends, and let him spend time with his. Don’t start spending all of your time with someone else. No matter how much you want to, don’t spend every spend second with your boyfriend. You’ll regret it later.

Don’t call or text him incessantly. Make him always pursue you, but you always should be available to return his calls or texts. Sound excited to hear from him. For example say, “I am SOOO happy to hear from you!” Your texts should be shorter than his. Guys don’t like girls who seem desperate. You have to show that you’re interested while not seeming too eager. It’s tricky.

Book time for yourself. Tell him that you are going away for a day to be by yourself or spending time with your friends. Make sure that he understands that you have a life that doesn’t involve him. When you spend time without him, make sure you send him small texts or make short calls to say that you miss him.

Let him know that you think about him. Always talk about what a good time you had with him and how fabulous he was at kissing or sex. Guys have big egos, and you should build him up. Be careful not to overdo it.

Don’t be his maid, but show that you care especially in front of his friends. You should be especially nice and hospitable when his friends are over. It will embarrass your guy if you ask him to do stuff for you in front of his friends. He should also be especially nice to you in front of your friends.

These are the basics that you need to know and follow, but if you want to make sure that the guy you want is automatically obsessed with you, you need to know more secrets. Click here to find out how!

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Studies suggest that women look more favorably at men who have a healthy waist to hip ratio. In other words, women assume that men who are fit and healthy have better personal qualities, like more money or better personalities. This of course happens on a subconscious level, and it probably is the result of years of evolution.

When our ancestors chose mates, they looked for a partner who was healthy so they could have healthy offspring. Even today, people who look healthy have an easier time getting dates. Women are attracted to men who are physically fit because millennia ago, a fit man would be a better hunter and provide for his family well.

In a study done by Devendra Singh at the University of Texas, it was found that women were most attracted to men who were of a healthy weight (neither overweight nor underweight). The women ranked illustrations of men with various waist to hip ratios, meaning that they rated illustrations of men who were identical except for their weight. Not only did the women find the men who were of a healthy weight to be more attractive, but they also assigned more positive qualities to illustrations of them, like intelligence and would be a caring father.

Why should you care?

If you’re not in shape, you might be lessening your chances of getting dates. There are people out there who like all body types, but the majority of women prefer someone who looks healthy. You don’t have to get a body like Arnold, but you should strive to be at a healthy weight. This isn’t a good idea just to get girls, it’s also good for you! You can improve your health and get more dates by hitting the gym.

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